Well recently I heard that this girl I know started liking me and I figured "Hey, she's woth a shot." We've talked a few times since then and have been making tenative date plans and such. Anyways, the other day I heard that she has plans to go to a movie with another guy. She (and her friends) say that he is just a FRIEND and that she made the plans with him before school let out (and before she was interested in me). I am uncertain whether or not to confront her about this. If I do confront her I will just tell her that I don't think that this is okay and that she should not do this again in the future, but that she doesn't have to cancel this time. If I don't confront her, I would hope that she would naturally not make any more plans with this guy. I don't want to be overprotective, but I won't put up with her seeing someone else, even if SHE THINKS its just a friend thing. Can anyone give me advice on this situation?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
To Confront or Not to Confront - That is the Question of the Day
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
InsidiousNstinct
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Yeah...stop over re-acting. Your getting jealous, put the fire out before it spreads.
Trust me man stuff like this just eats you up, did the samething to me. Don't be getting all bent out of shape.
spooky....my 666 post.
SO you're dating or are y'all just planing dates? Either way nowhere in the laws of love and war does it say a perticipent (spelling) may only go out with one person. Unless, however, both have decided to a RELATIONSHIP. Even then its DOG eat DOG.
Trust me man stuff like this just eats you up, did the samething to me. Don't be getting all bent out of shape.
spooky....my 666 post.
WLDB
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If she is truly interested in you then dont worry.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Well ask her how much you mean to here and ask for only sincerety. If she truly likes you you have absolutly nothing to worry about. She should be able to go and do stuff with other males as long as they aren't romantically involved. Easiest thing to do is ask all her friends and see if their stories match up. I noticed girls are gossips and blabler mouths.
Marshal-H, about the askign her friends about it, thats not a good idea cause then her friends are gonna tell her and then its gonna be worse than if you just confronted her about it cause shes gonna think you dont have the balls to do it. And is it a good idea to "ask her how much you mean to her" (this is for more experienced DJ's to answer)