"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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To call or to text?

snowdog

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Just wondering... do you guys rather text or call a girl you're aquired a number from? I mean the first contact attempt you make.

Personally, I prefer calling. That way I'll get a direct response and be impossible to ignore. A text message is easily ignored. I also like to talk, having conversations is a good way to build rapport, as I learned here. However, it's the totally hip thing to text these days. Now I don't give a sh*t about that, but how does it work out with the ladies for the other people who also call right away?

..just wonderin'
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lordson

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texts can easily be ignored

you have to develop rapport. chicks love talking, you'll have to call
 

thefonz

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For cold approaches I text first, if it's a girl from work or social circle I call.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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snowdog said:
Just wondering... do you guys rather text or call a girl you're aquired a number from? I mean the first contact attempt you make.

Personally, I prefer calling. That way I'll get a direct response and be impossible to ignore. A text message is easily ignored. I also like to talk, having conversations is a good way to build rapport, as I learned here. However, it's the totally hip thing to text these days. Now I don't give a sh*t about that, but how does it work out with the ladies for the other people who also call right away?

..just wonderin'
I would deff call on the phone first.. Text messages and emails look to stalkerish and anonymous(to me anyways), and yeah can be ignored , plus you'll be driving yourself mad waiting for her to text back..

Yeah, first contact.... use the phone:up:
 

ChrizZ

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depends.

If she was really into you then I'd text.

Otherwise call her and try to regame her on the phone.
 

Vice

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Always call.

This way you can get her in a good mood.
Her in a good mood equals better chance of her accepting an invitation to spend time with you.
 

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Vice said:
Always call.

This way you can get her in a good mood.
Her in a good mood equals better chance of her accepting an invitation to spend time with you.
While tone on the telephone does have a resounding impact, so do the proper text messages and e-mails. Every opportunity has its unique qualities that make every approach and situation different. It is up to you to learn through practice which is proper in each circumstance and to apply that knowledge.
 
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