"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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to call or not?

Cloudtopsun2100

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I've been dating this girl for awhile. We had a great talk on the phone tuesday she asks for a phone kiss before she gets off the phone so I tell her I'll call her wednesday- wednesday rolls around I call her up kinda late- she sleeps early cause she gets up at 6- anyways i get the vm after 1 ring and don't leave a message. Now its thursday evening and she hasn't called me back- I'm debating whether or not to. Perhaps I should just call her tomorrow? I want to set up a date with her friday evening. what to do??
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Dont call too often...ignoring is a powerful weapon and just act casually....talk to her occasionally...not most of the time
 

defiancy

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By the way...clean out ur box because you're over the limit...

If you want to communicate..you bettter do so hehe:p
 

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its 1030 now- too late to call unless I wanna leave some crummy VM...I guess I'll have to call her tomorrow morning......if she doesnt call me by 5 though I'm going to not call her for the whole weekend and not go out on the friday date regardless.. good move?
 

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Dont call.

If you had done everything right she would be brimming with excitement to see you and would want to call you more then anything.

However, im not saying give it up. Stupidly enough, you put the ball in her court, dont go and try pick it up and take it back to yours.

Hope it all works out for ya mate.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Cloudtopsun2100

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ya, so dont call her on Friday either? this is retarded.....she must be a real blockhead not to call me- i shouldn't even have this thread- i will call her once more ( it'll be her saying yes to a date OR saying something stupid and irrelevant in which case she gets nexted on the spot~ her VM will count as stupid)- I'm not the one who wanted to be bf/gf (she did) - I don't wanna meet her friends either - she must be trying to get her power back or whatever- she can just go back to her omega buddies and go be a queen bee then - crazy ass gameplaying bytc*, f*** this I'mma gonna forget about her stank HB9 ass this weekend- and also f*** exclusivity that's for AFC's...I just got a new number today...ahhh now I feel better just had to rant.
 
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Still in high school at 20 something huh?
 

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Originally posted by Cloudtopsun2100
ya, so dont call her on Friday either? this is retarded.....she must be a real blockhead not to call me- i shouldn't even have this thread- i will call her once more ( it'll be her saying yes to a date OR saying something stupid and irrelevant in which case she gets nexted on the spot~ her VM will count as stupid)- I'm not the one who wanted to be bf/gf (she did) - I don't wanna meet her friends either - she must be trying to get her power back or whatever- she can just go back to her omega buddies and go be a queen bee then - crazy ass gameplaying bytc*, f*** this I'mma gonna forget about her stank HB9 ass this weekend- and also f*** exclusivity that's for AFC's...I just got a new number today...ahhh now I feel better just had to rant.
what the hell is your problem? sh1t happens, it isn't always the girl's fault, and if she didn't call you back than she either has a good reason or is playing games with you. there's no reason for you to cry like this. just calm down and take it in stride.
 

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One thing I'm really big on is not to overanalyze things. Unless she hates you with a passion(which doesn't seem likely in your situation), she probably had a good reason not to return your call..just put yourself in her situation. Have there not been days when a girl called and you have been absolutely too busy to return a call?


Just relax.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wow...ur thinking about this too much...heres what i do...i call the girl...the girl doesnt answer, ill leave a quick message "Hey (girls name) it's Evan, i was gonna ask u somethin, but ur not answering..well sucks for you..later" or something along those lines, then i forget about it. If she doesn't call..her loss, next.
 

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In general I try not to leave voice mail messages. The problem with that is that a geniunely interested girl may not know that you called, and she would return your call had you left a message.

If you say the generic "this is evan, just calling, call me back or something" than they probably won't ring you. The message I use, which always gets them to call me back, is "hey Amber, this is Matt. Call me back at exactly 9:37 (or some other obscure time)."
 
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