"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To Call or not to call??

O Snap

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Ok guys, first time writing on here, so bear with me. I have been reading the articles and the bible for a while now, and i know that it is recommended to only call girls when you are planning a date(as little time on the phone as possible).

However, I am a college student on winter break. I went out with this girl a couple of times before school ended, and they went well. I have not said a word to her since our finals week, which was about 3 weeks ago, except to see if she was coming back to school early for new years(she lives 5 hours away, and it was bad weather).

My question is, should i call her, just to see how both her and her break are going, or do I wait until school starts to call her again? I don't think a phone call asking her how she is doing is going to come off as "too needy".

Thanks again guys
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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golf299

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i was in the same situation with a couple girls before i left for break and i have called them both up over break...keeps em' thinking of you and lets them know that they're being thought of--girls like that. i say give her a call and see whats up, but don't talk forever with her, just a quick chat.
 

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How long before you go back? Don't even worry about calling. Don't put too much emphazis either. This is one of the few instances in which an email, or heaven forbid, a tex message might be the best thing, since you're not gonna ask her out anyway. When you see her back at school, don't even bring it up. If she ackowledges it or not is irrelevant, since you are in control and are just gonna pick it up from where you left off anyway.
 

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Originally posted by O Snap
Ok guys, first time writing on here, so bear with me. I have been reading the articles and the bible for a while now, and i know that it is recommended to only call girls when you are planning a date(as little time on the phone as possible).

However, I am a college student on winter break. I went out with this girl a couple of times before school ended, and they went well. I have not said a word to her since our finals week, which was about 3 weeks ago, except to see if she was coming back to school early for new years(she lives 5 hours away, and it was bad weather).

My question is, should i call her, just to see how both her and her break are going, or do I wait until school starts to call her again? I don't think a phone call asking her how she is doing is going to come off as "too needy".

Thanks again guys
a couple of times?
u dont know her well enough,
it is desperate.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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