"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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To call or not to call???

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I was with this girl and she got LMR and wanted to take me home. I didn't take it too well because of my ego, she could see I was upsett, she tried to give me her picture and I declined and asked why I would take her picture. We had a really great night up until that point, lot of making out, massages, she was topless. I texted her and told her no worries -- that I just wanted to hook up anyways. This got her very upsett and she told me to lose her number. I called her and we talked a bit and her friends ended up getting into it and told me i better lose her number or else because they have weapons and dudes.

This is wild and never had this problem before. I let things blow over a bit and am thinking of texting her and saying i feel bad about how things ended and Im only going to ask this once because I dont want drama but to please call sometime because there are things she doesnt understand.

Should I send this text or not? Is there anything good that can possibly come from it if I do? I mean we really clicked good, it fell apart at the very end. I dont want this girl to think I am a stalker or some **** though.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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send it to her, be sincere without being pathetic, and see what happens. it's up to her

Playboy said:
I texted her and told her no worries -- that I just wanted to hook up anyways.
I'm just wondering how you thought she was gonna react to this. you basically told her she was nothing more than a piece of ass to you

and the wierd thing is, you were lying
 

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LEAVE HER THE FOCK ALONE. Move on. You royaly screwed that one up. Now tell us what did you learn? Because by the tone of your post you seemed to have learned nothing and can't see what you did wrong. Read your post about 10 times and then post back with where you went wrong. If you don't learn to figure out YOURSELF where you ****ed up you will be here for 50 years asking us what went wrong.

Think about what you did from her point of view. If you still can't figure it out. Come back and post that.
 

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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
Failure is a vital curve of learning. Leave it alone, You've just poured diesel over the match. Just learn like the rest of us that telling her that she's a piece of ass usually doesn't go over too well..
It's funny though, Im so confident, I work out and do martial arts. That weapons and "DUDES" (LMAO) wouldn't scare me, I'd probz knock the sh1t out of them, even if I am 14...lol, but I dont like to fight, but I'll mess people up if they start on me, or my family or friends. Especially my F+F...

anyway, just leave the girl alone now.. :D
Good luck in future

Lil' ben ;)
 

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do not contact her. nothing good can come from it. You made a mistake. Next time just accept LMR. I think you can wait till next time to try and have sex with her. I mean maybe she just didn't want to feel like a ho, sleeping with you on the same night you met.

Plus you don't want to mess with those girls' "dudes."
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I know what I did wrong, and I feel like a total ******* actually. Can't believe i said that stuff but I just said it because I actually liked her and my ego kicked in.
 

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I did text her again, for the last time. I said "I will only say this once cause I dont want drama but that we clicked and it was real and that I hope we can still be friends some day. No sex friends. if not - thats ok."
 

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Playboy said:
I did text her again, for the last time. I said "I will only say this once cause I dont want drama but that we clicked and it was real and that I hope we can still be friends some day. No sex friends. if not - thats ok."
so what was the point of sending this? She's not going to really get with you either way. I guess you can feel closure but it really didn't help at all IMO.
 

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should've thrown a sincere apology in there

but thats ok
 

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ezily said:
so what was the point of sending this? She's not going to really get with you either way. I guess you can feel closure but it really didn't help at all IMO.
I didn't send the message so I could "get it", I sent it because I was an as-s-hole about not getting it and I wanted her to just know that what we had was real even though it didnt get capped off with sex. Just wanted her to know I wasnt just playin her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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