"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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To call or not to call???

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I was with this girl and she got LMR and wanted to take me home. I didn't take it too well because of my ego, she could see I was upsett, she tried to give me her picture and I declined and asked why I would take her picture. We had a really great night up until that point, lot of making out, massages, she was topless. I texted her and told her no worries -- that I just wanted to hook up anyways. This got her very upsett and she told me to lose her number. I called her and we talked a bit and her friends ended up getting into it and told me i better lose her number or else because they have weapons and dudes.

This is wild and never had this problem before. I let things blow over a bit and am thinking of texting her and saying i feel bad about how things ended and Im only going to ask this once because I dont want drama but to please call sometime because there are things she doesnt understand.

Should I send this text or not? Is there anything good that can possibly come from it if I do? I mean we really clicked good, it fell apart at the very end. I dont want this girl to think I am a stalker or some **** though.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ready123

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send it to her, be sincere without being pathetic, and see what happens. it's up to her

Playboy said:
I texted her and told her no worries -- that I just wanted to hook up anyways.
I'm just wondering how you thought she was gonna react to this. you basically told her she was nothing more than a piece of ass to you

and the wierd thing is, you were lying
 

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LEAVE HER THE FOCK ALONE. Move on. You royaly screwed that one up. Now tell us what did you learn? Because by the tone of your post you seemed to have learned nothing and can't see what you did wrong. Read your post about 10 times and then post back with where you went wrong. If you don't learn to figure out YOURSELF where you ****ed up you will be here for 50 years asking us what went wrong.

Think about what you did from her point of view. If you still can't figure it out. Come back and post that.
 

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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
Failure is a vital curve of learning. Leave it alone, You've just poured diesel over the match. Just learn like the rest of us that telling her that she's a piece of ass usually doesn't go over too well..
It's funny though, Im so confident, I work out and do martial arts. That weapons and "DUDES" (LMAO) wouldn't scare me, I'd probz knock the sh1t out of them, even if I am 14...lol, but I dont like to fight, but I'll mess people up if they start on me, or my family or friends. Especially my F+F...

anyway, just leave the girl alone now.. :D
Good luck in future

Lil' ben ;)
 

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do not contact her. nothing good can come from it. You made a mistake. Next time just accept LMR. I think you can wait till next time to try and have sex with her. I mean maybe she just didn't want to feel like a ho, sleeping with you on the same night you met.

Plus you don't want to mess with those girls' "dudes."
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I know what I did wrong, and I feel like a total ******* actually. Can't believe i said that stuff but I just said it because I actually liked her and my ego kicked in.
 

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I did text her again, for the last time. I said "I will only say this once cause I dont want drama but that we clicked and it was real and that I hope we can still be friends some day. No sex friends. if not - thats ok."
 

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Playboy said:
I did text her again, for the last time. I said "I will only say this once cause I dont want drama but that we clicked and it was real and that I hope we can still be friends some day. No sex friends. if not - thats ok."
so what was the point of sending this? She's not going to really get with you either way. I guess you can feel closure but it really didn't help at all IMO.
 

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should've thrown a sincere apology in there

but thats ok
 

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ezily said:
so what was the point of sending this? She's not going to really get with you either way. I guess you can feel closure but it really didn't help at all IMO.
I didn't send the message so I could "get it", I sent it because I was an as-s-hole about not getting it and I wanted her to just know that what we had was real even though it didnt get capped off with sex. Just wanted her to know I wasnt just playin her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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