"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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To buy or not to buy lingerie

Daniel1982

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So, I'm going to participate in a gift exchange, and the person I have to give the gift is a girl, who is into me.

Now when we were asked what we would like to receive in this exchange, she asked from something of Victoria's Secret, to which I replied "ok, so what colors you like on lingerie".

She blushed, and nerviously asked for body butter and stuff. But I know she didn't disliked the idea, especially because she did her HW and she knows that I'm the one who's gonna giver the gift.

Now I could go and buy the stuff she asked, and then covertly give her the lingerie when no one sees, but, I don't know if by doing this, I would fall into the "expected behavior", and just become an ego booster.

Suggestions??

BTW, she's not a keeper, just a duck.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Julius_Seizeher

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Is this girl at work?
 

amoka

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Dont get the lingerie or the stuff she requested. Buy her anything else other than those two.
 

Scaramouche

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Dear Daniel,
She may be a Duck,but if you don't get the Lingerie,you are a Goose....Anyway whats a blush if not an invitation for sex?...and whats a piece of sexy underwear cost you?a couple of bottles of wine,MacDonalds for two.
 

sodbuster

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Better check her size the next time you undress her-don't buy a size 14 for a size4
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Daniel1982

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amoka and Scaramouche, reflect perfectly my two views of the situation, on one side I think like amoka, into not letting myself show too much eagerness and play the pr!ck who didn't care about what she wanted, and bought her whatever he liked.

And the other thinks like Scaramouche and just escalate things by giving her a secret present with a devilish smile while nobody is watching.

@ Julius: she's not from work, that just reeks of trouble.

I've been in the game long enough to know that there's no failproof approach, but what I'm really certain is that I don't want to engage this situation in a way that compromises my hard earned rep in our group, just for the sake of poon
 

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@ sodbuster: Eventhough I haven't had her, I know her size, a couple of days later I was teasing her, and took a wild guess at her size, and nailed it square!!
she was like "how the duck did you know??", I just told her it was a connoseurs thing
 

vitor

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Just a thought, why not give her a gift card and make it known that you two have to go there and pick something out for her together, and she has to model it for you.
 

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Dear Vitor,
What a devious bathbun you are!!!but I like it.
 

Daniel1982

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Though you guys might want to hear an update

I end up doing a mix of all three suggestions, I did gave her the stuff she asked, and when she asked me about the lingerie that I supposedly was going to buy (i knew was being sh!t tested), i told her "there were two models i liked, but i'm still not sure which one to pick, but if you model those for me i'm sure i'll know"

she slapped my shoulder, but bitted her lip, and the we all went for a drink. The rest is history, but let's say i got one more under my belt =P
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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