"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To break up with the GF, or not to??

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Epimanes

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I say .. never let your feelings control your actions. If your anxieties get too high, you lose your cognitive thinking ability as your anxieties (insecurity is an anxiety, it does and can eat you up). Take a few minutes to calm down and think rationally. No marriage or relationship is going to be perfect. If you next her without getting over your insecurities you will only bring that with you into the next relationship and history will repeat itself.

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Feelings follow actions... Do the actions first and your feelings will follow.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well I did it, i broke up with her. Wasnt easy, the second she walekd out the door, i started balling crying. Im really gonna miss her, but all the arguing and bull**** wasnt worth it
 
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