You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Maybe its because they are virgins or maybe am doing something or else they couldnt have aggreed to go in bed with meIceberg said:Well if they're virgins (yeah right) then having sex is probably a big deal for them, and you'll have a harder time getting them to give it up.
Which is why I never understood this board's fascination with virgins.
Maybe they agreed to go in bed with you because they're stupid virgin children and they don't know any better.RitFol said:Maybe its because they are virgins or maybe am doing something or else they couldnt have aggreed to go in bed with me
With all these virgins he found, I thought maybe he lived in Afghanistan.moneyisking said:i want to almost bet my money you're freshman in college. it's that time of year with increasing bull sh!t of female "oh I am a virgin hehe" in first year of college at dorms
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LMFAO!!!!gpshields3 said:With all these virgins he found, I thought maybe he lived in Afghanistan.
Looking back years from now she'll most likely most remember her BEST lay, not her first. The first one tends to be lackluster on average.Alvafe said:maybe its because of that thing of being her first, and she will always remember it, its like at least a girl will remember me and not just be another.
I think the only thing he's doing wrong is messing with virgins. I've messed around with 2 virgins in the last month and neither of them knew wtf they were doing at all. I couldn't get my **** inside either of them. Both were really tight. One started to bleed and I got turned off so I stopped, the other said that it would "sting" when I ever so gently tried to push it in so I stopped with her too.Iceberg said:Maybe they agreed to go in bed with you because they're stupid virgin children and they don't know any better.
It's not like they have a lot of experience to draw from. A grown woman sees getting into a bed with a man as guaranteed sex. I don't know what virgin kids see it as. Maybe they just think of it as cuddling and talking. I don't know.
Or maybe you're doing something wrong.
Yah..that sucks but it's not like I know that they are virgins from the start.It's just that I talk to some girls in my highschool we hit it off and they end up telling me she is a virginfloydb25 said:Is it just me, or does it seem like EVERYONE with dating issues is chasing after the wrong type for their intentions? And not just on here. You got the nice guys and girls trying to be-wed crazy *****es, bar sluts, douchebags, bad boys, and people who use PoF. Then you have the players trying to sex up virgins as theyre walking home from church / middle school. Everyone's whining, hating the opposite gender, and asking for advice when all you need is common sense. Its like standing in a fire pit, and wondering why youre burning / what you did wrong. **** off already.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.