Hey there, needed some mature advice.
There is this woman who I have known for over a decade (we are best friends). I was a typical case of “friendzone” but recent events have changed the scenario and I can assure the attraction from the other side as well.
However, here some things that are to be known:
- I am a religious person. She, on the other hand, considers herself an agnostic.
- I am a guy who wants to be married and have kids instead of being in a relationship and waiting for kids to happen.
- We live at 2 ends of the globe. However, she has recently said that she wants to get back to our home country by the end of this year for personal reasons.
- We talk on a weekly basis over the phone. I am mostly the one initiating the call but when we talk, we talk for a good 30mins to an hour.
Considering the aforesaid, these are clear red flags for me. Even though I built the attraction (lost weight, built muscles, got my act straight after years of severe depression) and want to pursue her, these red flags are indicators enough for me to realise things are not going to work out.
What do you guys suggest? Either I make her chase me, in which case, she would likely change her view about the above or I can let it be and move on. Since we are friends, I am not going to be a moron by cutting her off completely but would do so in a more mature way.
Looking for some wisdom.
There is this woman who I have known for over a decade (we are best friends). I was a typical case of “friendzone” but recent events have changed the scenario and I can assure the attraction from the other side as well.
However, here some things that are to be known:
- I am a religious person. She, on the other hand, considers herself an agnostic.
- I am a guy who wants to be married and have kids instead of being in a relationship and waiting for kids to happen.
- We live at 2 ends of the globe. However, she has recently said that she wants to get back to our home country by the end of this year for personal reasons.
- We talk on a weekly basis over the phone. I am mostly the one initiating the call but when we talk, we talk for a good 30mins to an hour.
Considering the aforesaid, these are clear red flags for me. Even though I built the attraction (lost weight, built muscles, got my act straight after years of severe depression) and want to pursue her, these red flags are indicators enough for me to realise things are not going to work out.
What do you guys suggest? Either I make her chase me, in which case, she would likely change her view about the above or I can let it be and move on. Since we are friends, I am not going to be a moron by cutting her off completely but would do so in a more mature way.
Looking for some wisdom.