"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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To Be Or Not To Be..........yourself!

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Just been goin through all these tips and quotes on this site, and what an awesome place to help you motivate yourself! Im glad i found it!

Anyways, ive been reading a lot about being an yourself of late and i feel the need to clear this up with many out there who just are not understanding whether or not to be yourself!

The answer is YES and NO! Not what some of you are wanting to read im sure, but bare with me here! All men on this site at least realise that an ALPHA male is much more attractive to a woman than a BETA male. Ok now thats out the way you must realise that to be your same old non-successful self of wussy nature always pandering to a womans needs and calls is BS and has to stop! You may then say to me: 'Why cant women accept me for who i am?' I dont want to CHANGE and become MANIPULATIVE 'just' to **** women! YOU are not seeing that you ARE being MANIPULATIVE acting in your boyish nature! You expect to get a good shagging from being Mr nice and giving her everything she 'wants.' It is NOT manipulative to be your true self! A self where you have taken the time to learn and internalise the fact that your real born identity was/is still a MAN who can stroll through life with a strong easy grace!

As Michealangelo once said about his sculptures when asked how he creates such beautiful pieces from a piece of marble: He said i just chip away at the rock until i find whats hidden beneath! This is a metaphor for a man who with social and cultural conditioning to act in a certain way around women has become covered in **** over time which has hardened to a crust. This can continue to accumulate over time, or with effort and perseverence can be cracked and thrust aside, revealing the MAN beneath the ****. This is when it is ok to be yourself, when you are who you are and love it! No paralysis from fear! A MANS gotta do what a MANs gotta do! No **** coated 'nice' guys here! No manipulation just pure ALPHA MANHOOD :D GRRRRRRRRR!!!!!! COME ON!!!!!

I should prob finish on that dramatic note but i gotta make this clear. A BETA male is **** covered, OK!? He goes through life attempting to cover for his inadeqaucies by showing off his new car or money etc! This essentially is like adding a diamond ring to a **** covered man. When it would be much more attractive to see THE MAN!It just fails to make any impression when the woman is still overwhelmed by the smell of **** (his manipulative niceness).

Anyway lol i guess theres other articles on this on this site which i havent read yet so i must apologise if this has already been covered! Until next time

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LMAO, somebody should compile a 'JUST BE YOURSELF' thread. It seems like nobody understands the difference between a DJ and a PUA anymore these days. Forgot about that gem Bucky, I should go over the front page more often instead of just scanning the bible for missed truths.

Now to you minister... which comic book is that? It sounds familiar, but it's soooo out of place.

You wrote a great thread. You finally found the word I was looking for. The nice guys in the world who try to MANIPULATE the women, and still believe they are being the nice guys... I so have to go back to my research on that...
 

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Lol i know what you mean about a comic book character, though i dont know where i got it from it just hit me! It certainly aint no name for a DJ

But yeah looks like this has been covered before in some ways, but any nice guy out there needs to realise in being so is in detriment to himself and the ladies with his MANIPULATION and SELFISH tactics!

I got a question for you guys as im new to this! Its a little problem im having! I can talk to anyone no problem and i here craig and DD go on about 'its always on'! I feel like it is always on but then how can it really be? Is a girl turly just thinking/feeling that sprta stuff when with a guy? Some girls treat me puppy eyed, some just act easy going, others shout at me lol! WTF! But whats it all mean? I guess what im looking for here is how can i really tell whether it is on aside from all that talk of bodylanguage which may be true if your a master at it, but i sometimes stand there with my arms crossed and im not clossed offf im just interested in whats being said!

Think i just inadvertantly got into a few dif areas there but if someone could help me out here.......
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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