To be or not to be? Exclusive relationship?

[Father Joseph]

Here is my scenario. Please enjoy and give feedback.


So I have been in a LTR with this girl for almost one year then we broke up. No particular reason we both just got bored. We texted each other almost everyday and saw each other almost everyday. I was kinda chody didn't lead her or spike her emotions a "Nice guy". I started to gain interest in another girl before we broke up. It didn't become anything.

Soon after that me and my so called ex started a friends with benefits. During this time it our relationship was very passionate we would see each other 1-2 times a week and I banged the sh*t out of her. I was busy gym, music social life.. didnt always answer her messages and so on. This contiunued for a year.

A while ago she asked why I have became so cold and distant she asked am I seeing someone else. I was honest with her said "Yes", and she was ok with that. (actually very ok she started to stroke my **** through my jeans as I told I had to go. She asked "Are you sure you have to leave right now?" With a thirsty look on her face) Since then she has kept on asking me to become exclusive with her, telling how much she misses me and how much she likes me. I dismissed all of this with this so far with witty answers but I know it cant last forever.


The problem is that I dont know if want to be exclusive.

Pros and cons:

+ She is good looking: great ass and face goes to the gym

+ Nice and genuine personality very stable and submissive

+ Great in bed, (and very frequent sex during LTR)

+ Has no history of cheating on me or disrespecting me


- Losing the freedom to hit on/date other girls and having fun not having to worry about someone else

- afraid of relationship becoming dull and boring

- The idea of monogamous relationship seems very odd to me now


Thoughts/misc.:

? Should I cheat on her if I get a chance (Thank you SS and RSDN lol)

? Suggesting MFF threesomes to her

? Keeping/having sidegirls

? I just want to experience all kinds of thing with or without girlfriend



What do you think I should do? Advice is appreciatied. Feel free to ask questions.

 

[highSpeed]

Well FJ, I'd see if she was down for a threesome. Truth is, if you've already walked out the door its unlikely to work. However, you could use this situation for as long as it lasts. Get cozy with her, see if you can work in the threesome.

It seems as if you might have had LTR material there but it appears that you did not or were not ready for that.

 

[AttackFormation]

I think your relationship will be better like this. For her, the fantasy of getting you is probably better in the long run than having you.

 

[captain55]

Don't cheat just to cheat, if she's not hotter than your current ***** don't bother.

 

[Father Joseph]

Well as it happens we are together now. I am keeping my options open and ready to walk away this time. Found out though that she had something going on with a guy in her social circle (I do not know was it just makeout or sex) does not bother me. She was single at the time - so was I. How should I proceed if I find out that they were in contact after we got back together.



And thank you guys for the replys. May god bless you all.

 

[stevo]

You chose exclusivity again? Why?

The idea of not having you to herself is whats spinning her hamster and you caved in?

Didn't you learn from the previous time you were both together? What would you be doing different this time?

The reason she came back is because you starting showing DJ qualities and she's not used to it from you.

Keep ef'ing her and for the love of sanity please spin plates, this girl hasn't proven herself yet.

If she gets cozy with the other dude and you can see / know abt it, that's strike out for her. Claim your respect my friend.

 

[captain55]

I personally don't buy your story. no guys gets bored with a chick who has a great face, great ass, takes care of herself, gives frequent sex, and never disrespects you or cheats on them.

That said most of us will tell you yes...cheat on women every chance you can get. I regret not cheating on my ex.

 

[Rainman4707]

Depends what you want.
Like I have said in other posts...me personally, I want the whole family wife, kids thing...I know this reduces my power...& I heard some bloke in the bar saying yesterday "once you care about them , they have you, you're fu*ked.

Who asked for exclusive..you or her??