"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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To be 25 again

Stagger Lee

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So I got tired of seeing and only talking to mostly 30 year old stuck up hags on OKcupid. So I dropped my age down 8 years to 25, even though my pics are at age 32, just to see what I could see. By the way, the mangina ran POF won't let you do that among other things.

Much more girls and cuter ones with most of them being around 20-23 years old. I'm talking to some 23 year old borderline 8's, getting numbers, girls that if were 30 and looked as good wouldn't even answer. These younger girls are more real and just more refreshing. Their pics are just normal and not all dolled and doctored up. They probably look even much better in person and with their clothes off.

Older women suck but think they are all Ms. America. Being a guy over 28 or looking older than about 25 sucks.

Of course my thinning air, slightly aging face can't convincingly pull it off in person. If I could, I'd be macking it at the college bars still.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I was able to pull off the 25 thing until say 32ish.

Last year I had some older cougars think I'm 26, but that was just their fantasy lol.

20something women are no longer an option for me.

I'm ok with it. I did what (and who lol) I could for as long as I could :).

I get what you are saying though. (I cleared my PM if you want to chat.)
 

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Yeah it sucks that an older guy, 30's even into 40's, and younger girl 20's can actually be compatible with each other. Some of these younger girls would be interested in an older guy but mostly because of socially created age stigma they can't get past a number. Of course, older women don't face the same stigma with younger guys. I'm finding that 30-40 year old women are more willing to date much younger men than their age than they are older now.

Most of these girls between 20-24 set their age restriction at 28-30, so if your age is over that you never even see them in the online dating searches.
 
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There's nothing wrong with being 30 or older, but you're right. The ageist fvck who runs POF has some serious issues, and has imposed some downright ridiculous rules on men which prevent them from contacting younger women. I would boycott this site entirely if I used online dating.
 

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Stagger Lee I'm just curious mate this your 3rd thread or so recently on online dating, do you ever approach women in field?

It's not uncommon for my buddy who is 33 to pick up 25 year olds or younger at bars/clubs. Staying fit and keeping up with style certainly helps him and the guy barley speaks English but he gets more tail then any guy I know

Here is a pic of him
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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