"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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To bang or not to bang?

Vilempror

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Alright boys, here be the proverbial scoop. A girl in one of my classes is totally into me – and I do mean totally, I’m getting so many IOIs it isn’t even funny. I KNOW I could easily land her if I wanted to, but I’m not sure if it’s a good long term idea. The reason being, she’s only like a HB6, maybe 7. Maybe 6 is a little harsh, I don’t know. See she’s not unattractive, she’s just a little chubby. (Let me clarify that last statement, she is definitely NOT A FAT CHICK. There are a couple fat chicks in that class, and she is much better looking than them.) Basically, she looks like a HB who’s starting to let herself go a bit. Anyways, based on what I’ve said, I’d like your guys opinion on this simple question:

Do you think sleeping with this chick would be:
a) Beneficial to my rep/self confidence/etc., and why
b) Detrimental to my rep/self confidence/etc., and why

Thanks in advance for your opinions guys.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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first you need to figure out what you want. what will make -YOU- happy. whats your real motivation here? are you looking for a girl who you can love...? a girl to bring you pleasure? a girl to make you more popular?

obviously, the guy whos got a squad of gorgeous cheerleaders falling for him will look more "popular" than the guy whos railing chubbies. but it comes to point where you need to forget about what others think.

im a handsome guy. ive dated and loved girls, who other girls would tell me "you could do so much better!" could i? probably. but i had my reasons for sticking with it and i had the time of my life. no regrets.

ive also had flings with girls that were chubby. but cute as hell. and had massive tits. and gave great head. and loved to get pounded :cool:

i dont regret them either.

some girls are smoking hot. some girls have wonderful personalities. some girls, even if they arent supermodel hot, will make you horny and lusty just by standing near you; they give out a vibe that makes you want to ravish them.

i was in your shoes when i was younger. i passed up a lot of opportunities because i was too busy debating whether to do it or not. and by the time i figured out whether i want to hang out with the girl or not, it the opportunity had passed. i missed out on some great ones. it wasnt until i just went with it that i really started experiencing and finding out what i really like.

as you grow older and go through life, you'll find yourself attracted and in love with different types of girls. all for different reasons. and youll appreciate those differences.

do what makes you happy with life. whether its looking popular, being in love, or just being with a girl who you have a very sensual, lusty connection with. everybody else can fvck off.

-SLB
 

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why don't you decide what you want to do and then you do it.

that's the essence of being a man.
 

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Originally posted by Porky
why don't you decide what you want to do and then you do it.

that's the essence of being a man.
Go you good thing! :p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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First of all, thank you SLB for posting the only reply containing actual content. As for what I want... I'm not sure, but I don't think that's unusual for people my age. However, I can say that I am NOT looking for a girlfriend. Maybe I'm just looking for some experience.

To the other posters. Wow. Did you even read what I wrote? Or are you just spitting out generic, cliche comments to bring your post counts up?

Taviii, for the record, she is like 5, maybe 10 pounds over the norm at MOST. And she's not ugly.

Does anyone besides SLB have an actual opinion on this?
 

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rule 1 if it walks and has a vagina then **** it*

if shes in a wheelchair thats ok too
 

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doing a chick in a wheelcahir mm?
i have a new 2006 new years goal.
 

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Wow kinda funny im in the same perdicament i have this girl that i made out with when i was drunk and she is totally beging for me only problem is that she is amazingly tiny but litteraly no body and is flat chested but has a attractive face i really jsut wanna bang her but i think shes actaully wanting a boyfriend which im a senior and shes a sophmore and really wouldnt want a girlfriend cuase i wanna live my senior year to the fullest
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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seriously, you little AFC, what are a bunch of guys on the internet going to be able to tell you?

it's as simple as this:

if you want to bang her, bang her.

if you don't want to bang her, don't bang her.

I know it may sound complex to somebody as moronic as yourself, but don't insult the advice I give you when it's the only advice you need. how the hell should I know if you want to bang an HB6? why are you asking everybody on this board? I don't know what your feelings are, I don't know how low or high your standards are, and if you count on some nameless person on a random pick-up message board to make all of your petty decisions for you, then you have no backbone and you aren't ever going to be independent.

good luck, hope you break out of your AFC shell.
 

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I think, Porky, we are misunderstanding each other. Here are a few points which you are clearly not getting:

- My question is not should I bang her, but if I did bang her, what do you think the aftereffects would be. For example, would I be more desirable to other women, for having actually slept with a girl? Or would I be less attractive, for having slept with a girl who isn't prime material (even though she is a member of the popular crowd).
- Now you should see why your "advice" is useless to me. "If you want to bang her, bang her," doesn't give me any input whatsoever. For that matter, it is something I and everyone else knows already.
- I am not asking you to make the decision for me, I am asking for your opinion. Obviously I will make the decision myself – I was simply doing you a courtesy by asking for your input, which you are very loudly refusing to provide.

I’m sorry if this bruises your ego, Porky, but I’m getting the impression you don’t have the experience to tell me anything pertinent, so you’re just throwing generic statements out there. If my impression is wrong, please correct me. If not, stop wasting my time and yours.
 

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Originally posted by Vilempror

I’m sorry if this bruises your ego, Porky, but I’m getting the impression you don’t have the experience to tell me anything pertinent, so you’re just throwing generic statements out there. If my impression is wrong, please correct me. If not, stop wasting my time and yours.

You wouldn't be the first.

For some people, SoSuave is the only place where they feel they have a voice.

Loud mouthed, try-hard DJs' are worse than so-called "AFCs'"

:rolleyes:
 

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I couldn't agree more, TheRelic.

It seems to me that some DJ's here use the term AFC the same way a lot of online gamers use the term noob, rather than defining it as someone who doesn't know much about women.
 

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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once again, I'll reiterate myself:

how should I[ know what kind of culture your school has and whether or not it would affect your reputation?

sure, if you bang a girl who isn't super hot your friends might make fun of you. would it ruin your reputation? how the fuck do we know? my school had more than 3,000 people in it, nobody would even notice or care or talk about it. However, if you go to a stuck up, prissy private school with 100 kids in your grade then sure, it might very well hurt your reputation.


being a dj, being a man, and most importantly being happy in life is about doing what you want if it's going to make you happy. so, once again: if you want to bang her, bang her, you sheep. if your friends make fun of you, or if other people make fun of you, then try to be secure enough with yourself to not give a crap.


Originally posted by Vilempror
I’m getting the impression you don’t have the experience to tell me anything pertinent, so you’re just throwing generic statements out there. If my impression is wrong, please correct me. If not, stop wasting my time and yours.
luckily I don't feel the need to qualify myself to anybody on an internet message board. unlike yourself, apparently.

I could really give a sh!t what you think about me. I was trying to help you out and you acted like a petulant child who needs his hand held through every pick up. some things you need to decide for yourself, for the reasons above.

the sad part is, I think if enough people on here told you to hook up with her and lick her ass, you would.

good luck
 

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Subtle. Manly. Suave. - not.

edited for those of whom subtelty escapes :rolleyes:
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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