Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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to know if a woman is currently dating several guys or she is not dating at all.

I want to know right away if she is. Why? so I can gauge where I stand with her.

I want to know if you guys have ever asked the question or do you just leave it up to her to tell you.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Can I ask, why do you care where you stand with her?

To put it bluntly, I stand in one of 2 different paths with a woman. Either I'm banging her, or I'm not.

If I'm banging her, then I know where I stand - I'm a guy who's banging her. As far as titles (boyfriend, dating, etc), I let the girl worry about that. All I ask of her is that she serves a purpose in my life (good sex, entertainment, no drama).

If I'm not, then I shouldn't give a f**k what she thinks, or where I stand.

So - are you having sex with this woman? If you are, then what leads you to believe that she's sexing other dudes? And if you're not, then why do you care where you stand with her? She's doing nothing for you.
 

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hmmm...

I understand.

Come to think about it. this post is total afc. I guess it doesnt matter where I stand with her. and you are right. either im banging her or im not.

Its the only path i should take.
 

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Yeah, who gives two poos where you stand with her, unless you're marrying her the time you spend with her is going to be casual fun at best. So chill, if you're not comfortable with her banging 3 other dudes, ask yourself why. Its not her problem, its yours. Work it out, it most likely comes down to a deep insecurity which only rears its ugly head in certain situations. Like ask yourself do you feel insecure about her seeing other guys because you fear that at any point she might reject you and leave you? or because you are worried that you're not good enough for her? Its this stuff which you have to ask yourself which can make all the difference and can really leave you at one with yourself because once you can identify that insecurity you have, you can combat it.
 

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PokerStar said:
hmmm...

I understand.

Come to think about it. this post is total afc. I guess it doesnt matter where I stand with her. and you are right. either im banging her or im not.

Its the only path i should take.
can we assume that this means you aren't banging her?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PokerStar said:
hmmm...

I understand.

Come to think about it. this post is total afc. I guess it doesnt matter where I stand with her. and you are right. either im banging her or im not.

Its the only path i should take.
What doesn't matter, is if she's banging anyone else. That's irrelevant. A girl who has a boyfriend shouldn't be paying attention to other guys anyway. If she is showing interest towards you that's all that matters.
 

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Aaron B - there are 2 on the radar at the moment. the first one Ive been on two dates with her and kissed closed but she becomes distant every few weeks. which im thinking she is seeing someone else at the same time.

the second one is coming by my place this Friday for some wine and cheese. Im not sure if she is seeing somebody at the moment but I DONT CARE simply due to this thread and reminding me not to return to my afc ways.
 

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Poker Star your intuition is correct about chick #1 as for chick #2 wear protection she's coming to your palce so its up to you seal the deal.

I would also recommend getting another 3 women otherwise when 1 flames out you'll get oneitis for #2.
 
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