"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To any new DJ's starting out

just so suave

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I first came to this website when I was 15 or 16, as a virgin. I've not been on here for years as I forgot about the site. I'm 21 now, and I feel like I can help a lot of new people. I came out of a 14 month relationship towards the end 2011, and I haven't looked back since. It was a smooth break up, no hard feelings, the break up was something we mutually agreed on. I get a lot of attention from girls nowadays, and I don't use many of the things I learned here.

From my personnel experience, the things you learn here form the foundation for changing the way you think about and treat girls. The book of pook was a great place to start, I don't know if thats still around. As the time goes by and you put into practice the things you've learnt here, eventually you start to try things your own way rather than what pick up techniques you should be using in each specific interaction with a girl. The most important thing I've found out is that it's not about dropping ****y + funny one liners, it's about engaging the girl in conversation and being able to keep the conversation light and fun. You're not going to see results immediately, it takes years. Sure I got confidence from this site and from what I'd read, and that definitely does help as you're starting off, but over time you will develop actual confidence in your ability to flirt with women and get results, to the point of where as I mentioned at the beginning, you can completely be yourself and you won't have to even think about techniques. The confidence in your ability with girls will just be instilled in you. You realise that it doesn't matter whether you sleep with the girl or not, because it's not really going to improve your life in the long run, so either it's no big deal.

I haven't wrote this post very well because I don't have much time right now, I'll go into more detail sometime in the future. The aim of this is just to say everything takes time, be patient and in time things will change in your favour.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Le killeur

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Hey just so suave, im from England too, just wondering if the principles off this site apply as much in the UK as they do in America. I find that the general stuff works great but certain things are totally different, what are your views on this?
 

just so suave

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Hey le killeur that could be very true actually I never thought about that. I've never been to the USA so I can't really compare the differences unfortunately, but you definitely could be right about that.
 

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Some parts of PUA are universal (being confident, being an Alpha Male, building rapport and stuff like that).

IMO, it's best to just take the good points, and dump the other bull****.
 

Iceberg

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ilikecharlene said:
Some parts of PUA are universal (being confident, being an Alpha Male, building rapport and stuff like that).

IMO, it's best to just take the good points, and dump the other bull****.
Exactly.

If you follow PUA word-for-word, you'll just have a bunch of douchey carbon copies of each other, crowding into bars, wearing stupid clothing because it's "peacocking".

This stuff is good for building a foundation. The rest of it depends on your own personal style and goals.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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