"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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To all your POF users, I'm looking for a quick lay - best age group?

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bukowski_merit

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- Age group doesn't really matter. I've layed women of all age groups (all the way up to 41), and don't notice too much difference in effort. Although younger girls are 50% more likely to flake out at the last second (especially if it's pretty clear that she wants to have sex with you; LMR).

- If you're just looking for easy @ss - don't underestimate Craigslist "No Strings Attached/Intimate Encounter" section. Over 5 years - I've laid way more women off there than any other site, and it's 10Xs easier and less hassle. There are A LOT of warpigs on there, but no lie - some of the sexiest women I've fvcked have been off there too.

- I don't like your "about me" section. It doesn't scream "I'm a fun lay". At best - it just makes you sound like a "basic" fun guy. Which can have women thinking you'd make a good dad for her 3 illegitimate children.

Keep it very simple. Knock off all the selling of yourself. If anyone should be selling themselves - it should be her!

Chunk your copy.... Do you know what that means? It means don't have academic paragraphs.... Write in small, clear/concise sentences.

Instead of saying you have a sarcastic/absurd sense of humor - show it! If you don't know how to show it - maybe you don't have one.

- Focus more on what you're looking for in a woman. DO HAVE expectations. Even if goofy expectations like, "Must be able to make eye contact while having conversation". Give the woman something to qualify herself to when responding or messaging you. It can be a big IOI.

- I see no benefit to mentioning that you don't workout. NONE!

- It's better to lead with a strong opener. Then hold their attention with each line. I get messages all the time that I have a "very interesting profile" which is not the same as "you sound like an interesting person."

- Pictures are ok, but you have too many. Cut it down! I would keep the one "Rock Climbing in Kentucky"... The one of you on top of the waterfall. The one of you siitting on the ledge with Niagra Falls behind you (the only one that you can really tell what you look like). And perhaps the final one with the shirt off.... There's no good reason to have more than 4.
 

Shivastorm_88

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bukowski_merit said:
- Age group doesn't really matter. I've layed women of all age groups (all the way up to 41), and don't notice too much difference in effort. Although younger girls are 50% more likely to flake out at the last second (especially if it's pretty clear that she wants to have sex with you; LMR).

- If you're just looking for easy @ss - don't underestimate Craigslist "No Strings Attached/Intimate Encounter" section. Over 5 years - I've laid way more women off there than any other site, and it's 10Xs easier and less hassle. There are A LOT of warpigs on there, but no lie - some of the sexiest women I've fvcked have been off there too.

- I don't like your "about me" section. It doesn't scream "I'm a fun lay". At best - it just makes you sound like a "basic" fun guy. Which can have women thinking you'd make a good dad for her 3 illegitimate children.

Keep it very simple. Knock off all the selling of yourself. If anyone should be selling themselves - it should be her!

Chunk your copy.... Do you know what that means? It means don't have academic paragraphs.... Write in small, clear/concise sentences.

Instead of saying you have a sarcastic/absurd sense of humor - show it! If you don't know how to show it - maybe you don't have one.

- Focus more on what you're looking for in a woman. DO HAVE expectations. Even if goofy expectations like, "Must be able to make eye contact while having conversation". Give the woman something to qualify herself to when responding or messaging you. It can be a big IOI.

- I see no benefit to mentioning that you don't workout. NONE!

- It's better to lead with a strong opener. Then hold their attention with each line. I get messages all the time that I have a "very interesting profile" which is not the same as "you sound like an interesting person."

- Pictures are ok, but you have too many. Cut it down! I would keep the one "Rock Climbing in Kentucky"... The one of you on top of the waterfall. The one of you siitting on the ledge with Niagra Falls behind you (the only one that you can really tell what you look like). And perhaps the final one with the shirt off.... There's no good reason to have more than 4.
Thanks, those are so really good tips... Do you mind PMing me your profile so I can use it as an example?
 

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I agree with cutting down the numer of pics you have. I dont agree with "your profile not screaming I'm a fun lay". You cant just make yourself seem like all you want is sex but you can throw in some things like you like receiving massages. I like your profilie overall though. It all does depend on the message you send to women more though
 

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Shivastorm_88 said:
Thanks, those are so really good tips... Do you mind PMing me your profile so I can use it as an example?
I am actually banned from POF (over a rule that no longer exist; putting up a shirtless pic used to be against the rules). I do have a Okcupid and meetme profile, although i have nothing on my meetme about me, and the OKC one is a good bit different since you answer their questions. But if you want to see it - i'll PM you the link.

omega05 said:
I agree with cutting down the numer of pics you have. I dont agree with "your profile not screaming I'm a fun lay". You cant just make yourself seem like all you want is sex but you can throw in some things like you like receiving massages. I like your profilie overall though. It all does depend on the message you send to women more though
Of course you don't come out and say that you're looking for sex. But you really shouldn't mention massages either, it is one of the most cliche ways for a man to "hint" at sexual interest (I see it over and over on meetme; guys proposing that the woman let him come give her a "full body massage.").

You can be a lot less into talking about yourself though. DEMONSTRATE it.

Do you need to mention that you like rock climbing when almost all of your pictures show this?

Do you need to mention that you have an absurd sense of humor? ESPECIALLY when your profile doesn't really reflect that.

Learn to subcommunicate your sexual nature in an almost poetic form.

Etc.

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It's not really "that" important though.

You need to, first, make it past her minimal physical attractiveness requirement (which will change from woman to woman.) If you can't do this - nothing else matters.

Second, have something interesting to say in your emails, texts, phone calls.

Third, get her in your bed...


All else is of minimal importance.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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