I have always dreamed of writing a book, but my writing skills are lacking. Anyone know how to become a better writer? Any help would be appreciated. If you have any tips/advice that could help me I would be eternally grateful.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
--excerpt from Wonder BoysNobody teaches a writer anything. You tell them what you know. You tell them to find their voice and stay with it. You tell the ones that have it to keep at it. You tell the ones that don't have it to keep at it, too, because that's the only way they're gonna get to where they're going. Of course, it does help if you know where you wanna go.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Literature/writing courses in college helped me. Are you going to college? I couldn't write worth a dam* when I first went.* You can learn there.Sojourn said:I have always dreamed of writing a book, but my writing skills are lacking. Anyone know how to become a better writer? Any help would be appreciated. If you have any tips/advice that could help me I would be eternally grateful.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That is EXACTLY what I have been doing. As a matter of fact, I made a conscious decision to do so. But that had nothing to do with losing my voice. That happened due to putting myself in a vampiric situation with empty souls, that left me dry and speechless, literally.SalParadise said:iqqi, thanks for the recommendation, I haven't seen 'Bird by Bird' before.
If you've lost your voice, why not take a leaf out of Bukowski's book? Quit writing for a few decades, and take on a series of weird dead end jobs where you come into contact with the broken and dispossessed, and fill yourself with stories to tell?
That's one of the great things about writing - wasting decades of your life on booze and *****s can be the very best thing for your career. No wonder the craft attracts free spirits.![]()
I think I got two books here confused. The one I love is Writing Down the Bones, and Bird by Bird (Lamont) is also good.iqqi said:OH! I agree that Stephen King's On Writing is fab, but my absolute favorite book on writing is Bird by Bird by Goldberg.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.