MrNotebook
Don Juan
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You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I have't looked into Swiggcat but I'm not sure I like the whole concept of 'prizing'. It just reafirms negative and untrue beliefs that girls are above you, it keeps them on their pedestal. If you have that belief you are always going to be trying to make up ground and anything you do to 'DHV' will be fake. If you have that belief your mind will filter out everything but evidence to support. Don't ask us what works, go out and try it for yourself, you will find out what works a lot quicker thenschttrj said:I hope u guys have known about Swinggcat. he talks about a theory called Prizability. ok my prob, i mix up prizability with approach, i think if u just make eye contact with a hot babe and tehn approach her, u r showing that u r not afraid of her but dont u think u r also showing that u think she is of ur level so if u dont have a superb apparent value, u r damn goin to be shot down, arent u?
Prizing is the opposite of that. Swinggcat is basically saying that you are the prize and not the woman.SinJester said:I have't looked into Swiggcat but I'm not sure I like the whole concept of 'prizing'. It just reafirms negative and untrue beliefs that girls are above you, it keeps them on their pedestal. If you have that belief you are always going to be trying to make up ground and anything you do to 'DHV' will be fake. If you have that belief your mind will filter out everything but evidence to support. Don't ask us what works, go out and try it for yourself, you will find out what works a lot quicker then
Yes...... It's a mental problem, something isn't actually stopping you except your brain. If you think you have anxiety and get all the symptoms, you have anxiety.SinJester said:Most guys who think they have anxiety disorders only think they have a problem.
thats wat im sayin. If I am the prize, say George Clooney, and i see a random HB 9 at a posh club or any other social situation, what would George Clooney. Ok, if he is wearing an Armani tux and just got down from a S-class Mercedes, then he can just make eye contact, give a sly cute smile and go and deliver an opener or just start talking as i believe is more credible. now, most of us i believe dont look like tom cruise and at least, im not a prince so that my dad doesnt even give me a car. now if we see from the girl's (>8) point of view, suppose we are dressed well and walking the walk and talking the talk and caught the attention fo the babe and she makes eye contact, now what? if u smile before her, she knows u have interest in her otherwise nobody just smiles at somebody from across the room on making eye contact and at this point, if u give her a nod, and approach her, do u feel the situation, u r moving into her reality and in a way, even if u walk like brad pitt, u r falling into the trap. AND AS FOR MY EXPERIENCE, I CAN BET MY LAST DOLLAR, THAT WHEN U APPROACH GIRLS, IT IS SOMEWHAT A NUMBER'S GAME, ONLY MADE A DIFFERENCE, IF YOU ARE AN ALPHAMALE, BUT IT IS MUCH MORE STRONGER IMPACT IF U LET HER WORK FOR YOU OR COME TO YOU AFTER GETTING HER ATTENTION OR JUST MAKING EYE CONTACT WITH YOU. my observation it is! here is where i feel the prizability concept ( that im the prize) comes in. if i am the PRIZE, why would i work for her? why not she? she can give me signals, then i can make a move? dont u think, only making initial eye contact with a HB > 8.5 and immediately, going for her or approaching is somewhat lowering your value? ok, heres a situation for the guys:The Deacon said:Prizing is the opposite of that. Swinggcat is basically saying that you are the prize and not the woman.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Guy #3 would win.schttrj said:in a shopping mall or cafe, a HB was sitting and talking with her friend. just some near the next adjacent table, a guy (#1) was sitting and he makes eye contact with ther HB, smiles and moves over to the girls and deliver an opener, ok a very natural opener, that should work, benefit of doubt. and there was another guy (#2) over teh counter standing leaning on it in an angle to the HB, he makes eye contact with the HB, smiles and then turns away and gets into doing something else. who do you think will have a better impact on her? note: both are equally hot and dressed and smelled equally good but no reference to the money factor. i believe the guy#1 would have a better chance of creating attraction but still it is kind of the number game here and the guy#2 would establish himself as the prize here. im confused at this point.
Good point . I liked this part the most . Totally true . They are the ones that stand in front of mirror for hours before going out .ChrizZ said:WE are the prize. That's why they dress up and put on layers of makeup.
attraction isn't nearly as important as comfort. That's where this game is won.schttrj said:so what u r sayin JUST DO IT! if it works out, good and if ti doesnt, better. Move on. theres not a specific way taht u should resort to, but only that girls like men who know what they want and go for waht they want. man, isnt it number game what u r suggesting at? since this is a discussion and i would really look forward to ur reply on this. i believe that the root of getting a girl is attraction and attraction is when u act like a prize and have a higher social value than hers.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
ChrizZ said:Yes, I do.
I have a penis.