To act or not to act

[Claudio1975]

Last night I was hanging out with a group of people playing various nerd games at a local brewery. There were three women there I was really interested in, but there was one in particular who really had an effect on me. We interacted and maybe I picked up on some SOA, or maybe she just had gas – it’s hard to tell.

As we were leaving her car was parked in front of mine on the street. I asked if she planned to come back to the group and she said yes, but I did not act. I did not ask for her phone number or to get together ... I don’t really consciously know why, I just didn’t even though I was very attracted to her. What do you do at that point? Was my inaction cowardice or subconsciously picking up on something leading me away from going for it.? I guess at that point I sort of think, “This is too good to be true,” and assume she’ll reject me. How do I get past that?

 

[Billtx49]

I did not ask for her phone number or to get together ...

Was my inaction cowardice or subconsciously picking up on something leading me away from going for it.?

assume she’ll reject me. How do I get past that?

Not living in the moment with situational awareness.

Not fully knowing and acting on what you wanted.

The indifference that comes with practice.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

fear. let the regret be your fuel. next time just go for it. what's the worst that can happen? she politely declines and you lose absolutely nothing. in fact you gain some experience and are proud of yourself for having given it a shot to begin with. you avoid regret and learn more about people and social queues. when you eventually understand that the rejections have no actual negative effect on you your game will really flourish. you'll become suave, able to be smooth in any situation without forethought, oozing with charm and genuine confidence.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Last night I was hanging out with a group of people playing various nerd games at a local brewery. There were three women there I was really interested in, but there was one in particular who really had an effect on me. We interacted and maybe I picked up on some SOA, or maybe she just had gas – it’s hard to tell.

As we were leaving her car was parked in front of mine on the street. I asked if she planned to come back to the group and she said yes, but I did not act. I did not ask for her phone number or to get together ... I don’t really consciously know why, I just didn’t even though I was very attracted to her. What do you do at that point? Was my inaction cowardice or subconsciously picking up on something leading me away from going for it.? I guess at that point I sort of think, “This is too good to be true,” and assume she’ll reject me. How do I get past that?

Going for the number close is a good way to gauge her interest in you, use it as a tool.

It's amazing how much fun you can have with a girl and still get a fake number. Get numbers early and often, weed out the disinterested.

If they say some bs about not giving out their number blah blah snapchat blah blah, next.

If you exchange numbers and she runs off quick, It's a fake number.

If you exchange numbers and doesnt text back right away, she will most likely be flaky.

Girls that instantly start texting right away I seem to have good results.

 

[backseatjuan]

If you out and about there will always be women that send you IOIs, too many of them to count. Pick the one who did it better, and approach.

 

[Spaz]

Women will normally give out their phone numbers just to keep creeps off them atm in time.

And then they'll basically ignore those idiots.

At least that's what women around me tells me when they complain of some guy that keeps on messaging them.

My technique, well actually it's a habit of mine, back when I was young and handphones were something of a rarity, I'd just get a pen (which I always carry) and simply jot it down in either the palm of her hand (daytime scene) or if she's wearing a sexy mini skirt - on her thigh (nightclub scene).

Nowadays it's just a carryon from my old habit - I always carry a bunch of business card, I have it in my wallet, in my bag, in my car, in business card holder, etc and I'd simply hand it over to anyone that interest me, men (business) or women (business and pleasure), and it also acts as an introduction medium, sort of breaking an ice.

If the women fancies you, she'll call and will try to seduce you.

If not, then it's no big of a deal huh? Since you can always use a business card to introduce urself to a variety of women.

 

[Claudio1975]

Get numbers early and often, weed out the disinterested.

That helps, thanks. I actually have a fake number app. It actually rings to my phone but it isn’t my real number. I have heard of women using that.

Numbers early and often. I like that.