"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
A bottle will run $40-$80 dollars. Vera Wang Eau de Parfum Spray - 1.7 oz runs about $60.00.
She will or has been hinting at what she wants. Were you listening?
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VeryBadGirl
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Personally, I am a big fan of lingerie, books, jewelry, play/concert tickets, CD’s, etc.
Elimidate
Senior Don Juan
1)Gifts that she can touch- material objects, such as jewelery, stuffed animals, etc.
2)Gifts that she can't touch but strictly gives her feelings - A day at the spa.
I've always found that the best gifts are a combination of both and the best are those leaning towards the type that sends emotions running though her like a bolt of lightning.
Please understand this....The amount of money you spend on her is not that important.
What is important is the thought that went into making or picking out the gift and setting up the situation in which the gift is given. BOTTOM LINE!
The more creative you are and the more thought you put into the gift, the more she will appreciate it.
Any AFC with a bank account can roll into Tiffanys and buy something he thinks is impressive and most likely she will love it!And of course...... she will expect NOTHING less next year and on every other occasion
Why does she like it? Because its a sign of all the time he had to bust his ass in order to pay for it. That time is what really counts and is the #1 underlying reason why she likes it.
What a real DJ knows is that you can acheive the same results without spending tons of cash by simply putting in the time. Not in the office or on the trading floor, but on thinking about her and the things that she loves and then showing her that you have picked up on them.
Be smooooth and creative (not cheesy)! Good luck.
Elimidate
Normally I don't do this but the above is Bulls**t. Of course it depends on the woman. If I buy a Tiffany bracelet for a woman then the chances she will appreciate it more than she will a gift soap basket. Again, it depends on the woman. MOST women will take the Tiffany bracelet over the Homemade soap basket any day.
I just quizzed a girl on the job and she said that she wouldn't mind the gift basket but she would APPRECIATE the Bracelet.
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I am The Game
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bungo Pony
Master Don Juan
I used this once, and it worked extremely well, and I plan on using it again. Get out your video camera (or borrow one) and make her a video. No, not a "close & sexual encounter" video, just do some wacky stuff on it. If you have a talent, record some of that. Pull out some pics of you in your younger days (not the ones with your ex), and put together a slideshow of them.
This kind of a gift shows thought, creativeness, and is extremely inexpensive. Again, this is for LTRs only!!
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"Feelin' sleazy dirty,
Feelin' kinda mean,
Feelin' up, down & in-between,
Feelin' kinda ****y
Feel I'm on the rise,
Feel myself a-coming between your thighs" - Jackyl
Elimidate
Senior Don Juan
I can see where your coming from if you gave her a gift basket.
I agree she would definitely appreciate the braclet more because it's more expensive and required more money/effort to buy.
Here's the point:
I wasn't making a comparison between two material objects, my point was to compare something of high material value (bracelet)to a gift that has a lot of thought and careful planning put behind it.
Expensive gifts are sometimes used to impress a women when the same can be acheive by using a little forthought and creativity.
Ask the girl that you just quizzed if she would rather have the bracelet OR this:
(This is for a LTR)
One night you take her up to the highest elevated point in your city. Tell her you have a surprise.... Then for her gift, tell her to look up a star you've picked out and make a wish. Then tell her that's your star!
Now show her the certificate you bought from the international star registry where for a small fee, they will name a star after her (or any name you give them). Now, no matter where the two are you are, or how far apart, you can look up in the sky and wish on the star!
LOL I'm awaiting her response.......
djmanagement
Don Juan
Buy her a star....interesting!Originally posted by Elimidate:
Paradox,
Then tell her that's your star!
Now show her the certificate you bought from the international star registry where for a small fee, they will name a star after her (or any name you give them). Now, no matter where the two are you are, or how far apart, you can look up in the sky and wish on the star!
LOL I'm awaiting her response.......
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
RatnyCage
New Member
Bungo Pony
Master Don Juan
Agreed, that's why I suggested the video. The great thing about a gift that reminds them of you is even after they dump your ass, they'll be stuck with that haunting them MWAHAHAHAA!
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"Feelin' sleazy dirty,
Feelin' kinda mean,
Feelin' up, down & in-between,
Feelin' kinda ****y
Feel I'm on the rise,
Feel myself a-coming between your thighs" - Jackyl
Both my GF and I play piano, although she seems to think I play better than her. To go along with this, she loves listening to me play. Now, there's a current guy out there named Jim Brickman, and if you haven't heard his stuff it's sappy love/romance/emotional pop piano music, very often just instrumental with no words. I happen to own a book of music that he wrote, and I play the music for her a bit. Here's the clintcher.
For christmas, I plan on getting her one of his cd's, which not only is great mood music, but will make her think of me by absently recognizing the different songs that are playing, and the differences between the CD and how I play them....
Oh, btw... the star idea was one of the best things I've ever seen in my life.
2 Ideas though:
1) do it in a rural area where you can see the stars better.
2) do some research before hand and make sure you don't pick a star that's not visible year round. That would just suck. You have her looking at this star, thinking of you, yet it only appears during the summer. He he he... just a tho't
Just found out another thing too...
My friend said this came for a movie, so you might wanna make sure she hasn't, and will not ever see that movie... haha
Damn, you should warn us when you plagiarise romance techniques
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.