You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm cutting back on dates. One of the reasons I canned this one. I'm going to concentrate on getting fit and if I have a few dates that's a bonus.
Honestly, it's something you're doing. Need more info. Based off this post, I gather two things:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I have been on two dates with her. Kiss closed with her first date. Second date made out in the parking lot for about 15 mins. Suggested she come over and she said not now. I tried to set up a third date and she said she might go out of town on business and would let me know Wednesday. Then she texted a bit later with the I don't want to get physical text. I was grabbing her bare ass with my hand down her skirt. She liked it a few days ago. Maybe she wanted to make me wait....IDK...It seemed like a **** test.
That means she doesn't want to go directly to your house because she doesn't want to feel like a piece of ass. You counter by saying you two will be going to X and you'll be driving, but you want to show her your neighborhood. She'll either agree to come over and go out with you to X, or she'll counter by offering to meet you there. Either way, she is simply not comfortable with coming to your house yet. That won't change over the phone, so don't ask again until you've had your tongue and a drink or two in her mouth.
I can see your point of view. It is good information for the next time. I'm not contacting her again because I don't care. If she contacts me then I can go from there.
You obviously care if you're posting on here. You're getting frustrated. By all means meet more women, but this woman is close-able. You can shoot her something back like "I understand. Game for X at Y? (a place near your house). If she accepts, do the same thing you did last date (take it a little slower with the escalation) and you'll have her in your bed by the end of the night.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I might be frustrated instead of tired I will give you that. But How can I double text with what you have suggested after I have already texted That I don't want female friends and good luck? That's kind of the end of it unless she replies.
Oh, yep that's done. Take a step back and think about how that sounded though. You meant well, but it came off as being a cold ****. "If you don't come over here and **** me, **** you."
