She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm cutting back on dates. One of the reasons I canned this one. I'm going to concentrate on getting fit and if I have a few dates that's a bonus.
Honestly, it's something you're doing. Need more info. Based off this post, I gather two things:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I have been on two dates with her. Kiss closed with her first date. Second date made out in the parking lot for about 15 mins. Suggested she come over and she said not now. I tried to set up a third date and she said she might go out of town on business and would let me know Wednesday. Then she texted a bit later with the I don't want to get physical text. I was grabbing her bare ass with my hand down her skirt. She liked it a few days ago. Maybe she wanted to make me wait....IDK...It seemed like a **** test.
That means she doesn't want to go directly to your house because she doesn't want to feel like a piece of ass. You counter by saying you two will be going to X and you'll be driving, but you want to show her your neighborhood. She'll either agree to come over and go out with you to X, or she'll counter by offering to meet you there. Either way, she is simply not comfortable with coming to your house yet. That won't change over the phone, so don't ask again until you've had your tongue and a drink or two in her mouth.
I can see your point of view. It is good information for the next time. I'm not contacting her again because I don't care. If she contacts me then I can go from there.
You obviously care if you're posting on here. You're getting frustrated. By all means meet more women, but this woman is close-able. You can shoot her something back like "I understand. Game for X at Y? (a place near your house). If she accepts, do the same thing you did last date (take it a little slower with the escalation) and you'll have her in your bed by the end of the night.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I might be frustrated instead of tired I will give you that. But How can I double text with what you have suggested after I have already texted That I don't want female friends and good luck? That's kind of the end of it unless she replies.
Oh, yep that's done. Take a step back and think about how that sounded though. You meant well, but it came off as being a cold ****. "If you don't come over here and **** me, **** you."
