Tired of being a chump..dealing with oneitis,etc.

[Afchump1989]

I am an afc. Ill admit it it. I was dealing with a chick we flirted,showed signs of interest, we agreed to go on a date.Next day she texts me saying she was going to be tired because she works all day. I was fine no problem. So I hit her up couple days later making sure everything is fine and she said dont be nervous, everything is good.Fast forward two weeks later, I see on facebook that she actually went on a date with someone(online dating,wtf?), showing pictures of flowers the dude gave her and,posting "had a great time with a special someone" and ill admit I was effin hurt. So I raged on her,sent her texts saying **** like she didnt take me seriously.Later on the day she says sorry but im getting uncomfortable because I showed my anger.So I was like whatever and said I hope we can still be friends and I think after I said that, she went crazy saying maybe we can be friends but right now I need you to back off because youre making me umcomfortable and I dont appreciate it.

Im tired being a wreck and a chump around girls..and,im trying hard to not develop oneitis for this chick. I need motivation. What can I do?

 

[muscleman]

Start reading the stickies. And this: http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197931

 

[Afchump1989]

Thanks and im sorry for not checking it out. This **** is just pissing me off.

 

[PapiChulo]

That is completely "normal" for a guy who starts out on here. You usually start with anger then go into depression, and finally ease in into acceptance. Once you have a few of such experiences you will get hardened and cease to care about all this silly nonsense. It's not worth it, nor is it mentally healthy to be preoccupied with this. Just let it go, take a break if you need it, do yourself and most importantly be carefree/lighthearted. P.S. read about the common bullish!t women say and eject when they try to pull a stunt on you. "I am gonna be tired" was as a reliable disinterest sign as it could ever be. The proper thing would be to next her or to go ghost on her.....hinting that you had other options.

 

[Renegade357]

What can I do?

Learn first to drop women without remorse, regret or emotion. You sould have dropped this one when she flaked on your date. Also don't fall in love with them so fast. You don't trust a girl until you've been on 8-12 dates. During those first dates you don't believe anything she says. You need to make sure they do all the right things. If they show you red flags you walk. End of story.

Never take women personally and definitely don't blow up on them when they pull their predictable games. They're just wasting your time.

 

[Afchump1989]

Thanks guys, those replies help. I always looked at myself as a nice guy. Guess I gotta change now.