tips/ways to know if a girl is cheating/will cheat on you

[devilkingx2]

post tips to help your fellow DJs know when to give their girl a lie detector test or when he spots a girl he definitely would have to keep on eye on if he committed to her

I'll start with a few good ones:

1. if she has any male friends that are obvious chads, the kind of guy who bangs girls and doesn't have time for girly nonsense. why would your girl be friends with him? it ain't because he likes to hold her bags while she shops

2. if she liked party hookups when you met her, and she still continued to party while you're dating (you already know what kind of fun she likes to have)

3. if her friends are bad influences (a devil on her shoulder will lead to a lot of bad decisions in the wrong situation)

 

[lizardking82]

Here are some better ones:

1) she is calm person, but lately is having fights with you -> beware, she might be liking another guy or thinking about breaking up (theory + personal experiences)

2) she starts not answering the phone, shuts you down, doesn't return messages -> general signs of fading interest, not necessarily cheating, but possibly cheating, too

3) she used to wear sexy clothes for you, used to buy you gifts (when they adore you, they do) AND there's been a couple of months that she's not done any of that -> signs of fading interest and possibly, cheating

4) THE most important one: if your gut feeling tells you something is wrong, it probably is. Trust it.

 

[Roober]

In a relationship, it's any significant change in behavior, negative OR positive, relating to how she treats you.

The typical scenario is they start getting agitated with you and picking fights. That has been almost universal for me. Then, the physical cheating involves simply not being around you as often. Sometimes they will even be messaging you while cheating, so you have to focus on the "she is avoiding me" part.

Keep in mind too, it's not really about cheating per se. The red flag list I posted identifies the usual chronic cheater. This part is more about low interest, and in 2017 where there is low interest there will be a new man soon enough. They don't leave without a parachute.

Significant change in behavior is a key indicator. Just follow your gut with this one.

If a woman that has a great attachment to a guy, there is a very low chance she will branch swing. The problem here is that most guys "think" they were doing everything right, or they ignore the signs right in front of them. In every case I have been dumped, I could tell you exactly where I went wrong. I just didn't learn until recently...

 

[btownbuck2012]

she blows you differently, her technique has changed.

Probably the most painful sign I've ever experienced in retrospect.

 

[lizardking82]

What do you mean she blows you differently, that is a new one

 

[btownbuck2012]

What do you mean she blows you differently, that is a new one

Well the girl I dated in college wouldn't let me c*m in her mouth or on her face ever. This makes sense as I was a total beta back then. We had some "difficulties" in our relationship and she went ghost for a few weeks while I begged her for another change (big mistake). When she finally came back and we had sex for the first time when she was blowing me she looked up at me with her mouth open right at the head of my d*ck as if she was ready for it. She hadn't ever done that before. BUT I knew something was off because as soon as she realized what she was doing she IMMEDIATELY stopped. It's like she caught herself. She had clearly been doing that with some other guy and forgot in the heat of the moment she was back with me. I didn't really notice at the time but as I said previously, in retrospect, that on hurts pretty bad. Oh well. you move on.

 

[Masculinity]

1. She is less affectionate.

2. Changes/closes apps in her phone when you walk into the room.

3. She doesn't want have to have secks with you.

4. She takes "trips" somewhere on a consistent basis.

5. No compliments.

6. Criticizes you more than "usual."

7. Speaks in native language more often than usual in your presence.

8. Leaves the house very well dressed and perfumed to see "her friend."

 

[lizardking82]

Well the girl I dated in college wouldn't let me c*m in her mouth or on her face ever. This makes sense as I was a total beta back then. We had some "difficulties" in our relationship and she went ghost for a few weeks while I begged her for another change (big mistake). When she finally came back and we had sex for the first time when she was blowing me she looked up at me with her mouth open right at the head of my d*ck as if she was ready for it. She hadn't ever done that before. BUT I knew something was off because as soon as she realized what she was doing she IMMEDIATELY stopped. It's like she caught herself. She had clearly been doing that with some other guy and forgot in the heat of the moment she was back with me. I didn't really notice at the time but as I said previously, in retrospect, that on hurts pretty bad. Oh well. you move on.

Goddamn, that is a completely new one, never heard that before. Never was with a girl that didn't wanna suck before or if I was, it was casual things that I did not really care whether or how they sucked (although most of them will suck if they feel your manliness mentally).

 

[sosousage]

post tips to help your fellow DJs know when to give their girl a lie detector test or when he spots a girl he definitely would have to keep on eye on if he committed to her

I'll start with a few good ones:

1. if she has any male friends that are obvious chads, the kind of guy who bangs girls and doesn't have time for girly nonsense. why would your girl be friends with him? it ain't because he likes to hold her bags while she shops

2. if she liked party hookups when you met her, and she still continued to party while you're dating (you already know what kind of fun she likes to have)

3. if her friends are bad influences (a devil on her shoulder will lead to a lot of bad decisions in the wrong situation)

spying or trying to make her say the truth is equal to jealousy which means you lost already. there are a lot of good ways to spy but they are counterproductive.

It just seems as a benefit if you know what shes doing but in the reality you are wasting your life being nervous about some chick that is possibly cheating on you. she has right to cheat and so you have right to sleep with other. keep your options and it will be the healthiest way for your mental health

 

[guru1000]

Dominance is not some sort of a cure for hypergamy.

Hypergamy is a fallacious theory in most instances.

Base your "facts" on experience, not blog rhetorical nonsense.

31 y/o, you have just about as much experience as I had at 21 yo. At my age, in comparison now, you still have a pacifier in your mouth.

 

[RangerMIke]

An increase in b!tchy behavior... and you are on your way out.

 

[Glassguy]

Here are some telling signs:

1.) She hides her phone/keeps the screen locked/goes off by herself when on her phone
2.) She doesnt work out and then all of a sudden is a gym rat
3.) She starts hanging out with a friend that is recently single and starts going out drinking/partying with said friend
4.) Starts arguments over petty things that she didnt before
5.) Gets DM's from dudes and doesnt shut the convo down
6.) Likes specific dude's pics/statuses on social media. Same guy is also a "friend" of hers that you hear about but never see him around when you're with her

 

[RangerMIke]

Hypergamy is a fallacious theory in most instances.

Women are genetically driven to pair bond with the best male she can find. If you are in a relationship, and you get complacent and a better man comes along, she will instinctively be drawn to him. Depending on a chick's background, social condition, and her environment. She will act on this. She is ALWAYS looking for her next best option.

 

[guru1000]

Women are genetically driven to pair bond with the best male she can find. If you are in a relationship, and you get complacent and a better man comes along, she will instinctively be drawn to him. Depending on a chick's background, social condition, and her environment. She will act on this. She is ALWAYS looking for her next best option.

Wherein all a woman’s needs are met, hypergamy is dead.

Even if a woman’s needs are not met, hypergamy holds little relevance as she seeks more than just money and status.

 

[Glassguy]

Women are genetically driven to pair bond with the best male she can find. If you are in a relationship, and you get complacent and a better man comes along, she will instinctively be drawn to him. Depending on a chick's background, social condition, and her environment. She will act on this. She is ALWAYS looking for her next best option.

True. Even though I dont resort to treating women badly, that is why they stick around with ones who do. The dudes keep their self esteem low so they dont feel as if they have a chance with someone "better" so they always stick around. Just my opinion.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Women can have sex with multiple men, but very rare is the woman who can have passionate sex with more than one man. If she goes from screaming orgasms to just laying there bored, that's a red flag. It does not necessarily mean that she is cheating, just that the relationship has major problems, which could include cheating.

 

[devilkingx2]

It just seems as a benefit if you know what shes doing but in the reality you are wasting your life being nervous about some chick that is possibly cheating on you.

personally I don't care about if a girl cheats I mainly care about not making it easy for her to get away with it. I wanna be able to cut my losses ASAP rather than find out that I was being blind while she sucked every other guy in town lol

 

[Macaframalama]

any player

That's your problem. You're playing instead of macking to come up. Whether you need her gratification/resources or not is irrelevant. You must get her to invest emotionally, sexually and financially. A good leader will have his followers wanting to contribute to the cause. There's nothing wrong with playing for pvssy, but if you want to "come up" in the relationship, you have to graduate and level up yourself or you have no business expressing your opinions on the subject. A well rounded man will embody the pimp, the player and the mack at his discretion.

 

[devilkingx2]

Hypergamy is a fallacious theory in most instances.

Base your "facts" on experience, not blog rhetorical nonsense.

31 y/o, you have just about as much experience as I had at 21 yo. At my age, in comparison now, you still have a pacifier in your mouth.

I would definitely say that hypergamy is an important thing to know about but every woman does it to a different extent

not every woman wants to throw away her relationship for a fling with chad or the off chance that chad will commit for the first time in his life

whereas we all know that there are women that will dump you 3 months into her new relationship with the other guy, or women who'll dump you the moment a guy who is 2 inches taller starts taking her calls, or just get bored once you're no longer shiny and new

it's more like hypergamy is a quality all women have to different extents and what you want is a woman who'd only leave you for leonardo dicaprio or something else you don't have to worry about rather than your unemployed good looking neighbor that she sees all day while you're at work

 

[guru1000]

For those of you indoctrinated with hypergamy theory:

When a man fcks a woman and cums, the man no longer has the need to fvck at that moment. You could take a Playboy model and place her in front of said man, and he will not be interested until (1) his need to fvck arises again; (2) that need is not met when it does arise.

When all a woman's needs are met, she desires not to look elsewhere, nor will she "likely" entertain solicitations from "greater" men. "Likely" is quoted as there are some insecure women whose validation need cannot be achieved by one man alone, and thus she needs multiple men to satiate said need.

When one or more of a woman's needs are not met, she may look elsewhere. This has little to do with hypergamy and everything to do with her needs not being met.

The world is replete with examples of women leaving or cheating on their present husband/bf for and with lesser men. In many cases, including this, hypergamy is wholly inapplicable.

A theory with some exceptions holds little applicability. A theory with many exceptions holds no validity.