"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Tips on texting
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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as that one dude said,
better to keep your mouth shut and let people assume your stupid (or, let people assume you're not desperate and are actually busy), then open your mouth and remove all doubt.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
it's just another avenue of game that you should learn.
personally i love texting. it gives you an opportunity to actually think about what you wanna say for a little longer than in real life.
-use sarcasm sparingly; when you do use it, make sure to use the smileys to convey that you are being sarcastic (
, , etc.) -be funny! when she says anything, make it into playful conversation. the nature of texting is so informal that it's really easy to change EVERY convo into a playful one that allows you to really show off your fun side.
-be sexual. tons of things can be changed into sexual topics over texts, and girls EAT IT UP. if you've ever sent a sexually joking/suggestive text, think about how quick the reply typically came. girls EAT IT UP. use that to your advantage. again, use a lot of the goofy little smileys.
-be a bit ****y-er than usual on occasion.
her: hahaha you're so funny!
you: lol thanks. feel free to take notes and get a little funnier yourself
-personally, i say "haha" and "lol" a lot because pretty much all of my texts are joking and playful... so i would advise using those very often.
-initiate a conversation or two, then let the girl initiate the convo. easy indication of how much interest is actually present
-just generally have a good time! you sound from your post like you fear texting, you try to avoid it whenever you can. BAD! girls will pick up on this! they want to associate you with good times, fun, and confidence-not "oh geez, what am i gonna text next? i hope she likes it!" it's just like anything with girls. if you focus on making it fun for yourself, typically girls will jump all over it.
-if the girl is being a boring texter (sending short messages, messages having nothing of any substance in them) my approach is to call her out on it once. "god you're such a boring texter! you're gonna have to step your game up when you text me baby
" typically, she will begin to try to qualify herself to you and say "no! blah blah blah more interesting message." if she continues being boring, simply stop responding. it's hard to tell who you're texting here. random girls? you should have more than one at any given time, so they should be fairly dispensable as far as blowing em off when they get boring is concerned.
good luck man, and since i do consider my texting abilities to be way above average, feel free to pm me if i didnt cover something specific you're not sure about.
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
ha
my response
"you're so right! why do you even talk to him?!"
also, i find that random observations and funny beginnings of stories that happen to you are better things to include in a first text of a conversation.
not "what a hoe." haha but whatever works for ya man
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and i would obviously defend myself if someone said that. not just let them walk all over me. haha. maybe say "what a byetch" w/e. lol.