"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Tips on texting
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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as that one dude said,
better to keep your mouth shut and let people assume your stupid (or, let people assume you're not desperate and are actually busy), then open your mouth and remove all doubt.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
it's just another avenue of game that you should learn.
personally i love texting. it gives you an opportunity to actually think about what you wanna say for a little longer than in real life.
-use sarcasm sparingly; when you do use it, make sure to use the smileys to convey that you are being sarcastic (
, , etc.) -be funny! when she says anything, make it into playful conversation. the nature of texting is so informal that it's really easy to change EVERY convo into a playful one that allows you to really show off your fun side.
-be sexual. tons of things can be changed into sexual topics over texts, and girls EAT IT UP. if you've ever sent a sexually joking/suggestive text, think about how quick the reply typically came. girls EAT IT UP. use that to your advantage. again, use a lot of the goofy little smileys.
-be a bit ****y-er than usual on occasion.
her: hahaha you're so funny!
you: lol thanks. feel free to take notes and get a little funnier yourself
-personally, i say "haha" and "lol" a lot because pretty much all of my texts are joking and playful... so i would advise using those very often.
-initiate a conversation or two, then let the girl initiate the convo. easy indication of how much interest is actually present
-just generally have a good time! you sound from your post like you fear texting, you try to avoid it whenever you can. BAD! girls will pick up on this! they want to associate you with good times, fun, and confidence-not "oh geez, what am i gonna text next? i hope she likes it!" it's just like anything with girls. if you focus on making it fun for yourself, typically girls will jump all over it.
-if the girl is being a boring texter (sending short messages, messages having nothing of any substance in them) my approach is to call her out on it once. "god you're such a boring texter! you're gonna have to step your game up when you text me baby
" typically, she will begin to try to qualify herself to you and say "no! blah blah blah more interesting message." if she continues being boring, simply stop responding. it's hard to tell who you're texting here. random girls? you should have more than one at any given time, so they should be fairly dispensable as far as blowing em off when they get boring is concerned.
good luck man, and since i do consider my texting abilities to be way above average, feel free to pm me if i didnt cover something specific you're not sure about.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ha
my response
"you're so right! why do you even talk to him?!"
also, i find that random observations and funny beginnings of stories that happen to you are better things to include in a first text of a conversation.
not "what a hoe." haha but whatever works for ya man
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and i would obviously defend myself if someone said that. not just let them walk all over me. haha. maybe say "what a byetch" w/e. lol.