"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
tips on picking up girls who cant speak english?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ChenCristos
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flyinshark
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Note: In some countries the index finger is used in place of the thumb.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
what works for one group might not work for the other. Different cultures etc.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
Just wave them the cash and ask if they 'smoke'.
diplomatic_lies
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themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ChenCristos
Don Juan
Be patient and dont laugh at her sorry English
I met a Japanese girl whos English isnt too hot you just got to be chill and make her comfortable
Alpine
Master Don Juan
And if they don't understand, just say it louder, bloody foreigners.
flyinshark
Senior Don Juan
Hehe, she might actually be amused. Maybe she'll even go for it.
But seriously, you have to be patient if you are really into her. The more you talk with her, the faster she will learn english and the faster you two will connect. And when there is a connection, conversation flows so much easier despite any language obstacles.
al77
Master Don Juan
I am assuming they are in your country where official language is English, then they are speking at least some English.
First of all you want to be understood, so:
- Speak slower than you usually do, so she can understand you
- Dont mumble, try not to at least when sepaking to her
- Dont use idioms and slang - it is likely she would not get it
- Dont apply your own accent if it happens you have one
Now you are understood. Tell her you teach American\Canadian\Australian <your country> culture of conversation.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Spiky
Don Juan
1. If they ask you to slow down as you speak, dont slow down. If you do they become more engaged in translating than listening to you. If you speak normally they become attracted to your voice.
2. Sing songs, do impressions, make hand gestures, make funny faces, etc. Do physical rather than verbal actions to get attraction.
3. Comfort is very hard to build. Try just spending time with them lying down and watching TV or something. Talk softly and smile at them alot.
4. When escalating you have to be VERY carefull. Get your face very close and make sure theres sexual tension before you kiss her. Dont try something like kiss bet or spin kiss.
5. Hug them alot, the whole way through the PU. Stretch your arms out, say 'aaawwwwww' and give them huge hugs.