Tips on letting them KNOW that I like them...

[Babnik]

Sorry for all the posts, but I notice this trend of things...as some girls I know told me, its very hard to tell that I like them.

Meaning, some girls may be attracted to guys when they are not SURE if he likes them. In my case, if a girl thinks I don't like her - she leaves or loses interest.

Being ****y - same thing. Any kind of HARD TO GET thing turns off and makes them leave. Why? I was told that I look good enough for almost all girls to think that I have a girl, that I get girls, and yada-yada and that I should go for those premium girls...
If you think I am not, then ASSUME, I don't want to argue on this.

Anyway, I try to have that body language and that eye contact but they aren't responsive. I assume it means - no attraction...WRONG!

THEN, like ONLINE or something I would just spit out and call her sexy or give like an obvious "I wonna fvck" hint and WOAH they react!

Then, we can go on a date and blah blah...

THEN, they would say that when they first met me they thought I was SHY...

OK, the hell?!!! Shy? I approach, I talk, I ask out, I do this and that and look them in the eyes and get in their personal space and they think I'm SHY and can't TELL that I like them?!

I am lost...

How to let them know that I WANT THEM? How to offer sex subtly, but obviously?

 

[Cod3r]

Be more aggressive in your actions... nonverbals = 90% of communication

Subtly rub your fingers up and down her legs or arms without bringing attention to it, or hold onto her hand a little longer without bringning attention. Hug her for a few seconds too long, give her looks that convey "i'd fvck u to pieces"

Speak through your body


-Cod3r

 

[*******]

Don't bother showing them you like them. DOn't bother offering sex.

She will know you like her when you ask for the number. She will know sex in on the table when you start multi tasking with your lips and hands.

 

[Bussey]

Babnik, the reason why online you have no problem (and I agree it is easy to dial up attraction online with anyone really), is because online... its disassociated from true life. You're on a computer, using text, that you can think about for 3 minutes before you reply.... she gets it, she reads it, its in her head as if she said it, so now her brain is thinking about it, thinking she wants it, so she responds positively.

So everything about the internet gives you false dial ups(hey there's a lame joke in that).

I admit, sometimes in person I get 'shy' too. It doesn't kill my game, it just takes me a little bit to be comfortable with this person.

If you take all the concepts, ideas, gambits, tactics, etc, out of dating... its a scary thing. "Meet a girl one time, and establish a potential sexual relationship via communication." Sounds terrifying!

Something that's always helped me is to just realize that if she doesn't respond postively, then I can go on to the next. Treat her like a friend you've known for a year... still kinda new to the thing, but you can push buttons with them. If you seem comfortable around her, she's going to be comfortable with you also. WE naturally mirror each other, so just act how you'd wish she would act if she were trying to pick you up!

 

[Bible_Belt]

its very hard to tell that I like them.

So then don't. Show them by initiating physical contact and escalating to a kiss. Never confess feelings to a woman.

 

[haram]

yo its the same thing with me....this better be a good thread

 

[Delta]

complete afc question.

you NEVER EXPLICITLY TELL THEM YOU LIKE THEM. this is THE afc mistake as is the attitude that brings it into being - that somehow, the important thing is not how she feels about you but that for some reason, your feelings should carry some kind of significance (IT DOES NOT).

you NEVER TELL THEM. you NEVER EVER EVER utter the words "i like you" or any ridiculous shyt like that.

it is implied when you ASK THEM OUT! what don't you understand about this? do you think girls are stupid? THEY UNDERSTAND and if you're not getting anything, THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED.

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WHY? why shouldn't you tell them you like them? BECAUSE IT IS COMPLETELY UNIMPORTANT THAT YOU DO!!! who the fvck cares what you like? why should your liking them mean anything at all? who the fvck are you? it doesn't matter what you like. it doesn't matter what you want.

the only thing that matters is what you can get them to like and want.

this bit of self revelation is UNNECESSARY and likely UNWARRANTED because you probably don't even know them that well anyway if you haven't been dating them (or fvcking them). this makes you look like a ridiculous puppy dog.

when you say "i like you", you're trying to cheat the system and trying to get her to say "ok" and roll over and just accept you and lalalalala we're off to fairy land.

SEEKING AFFECTION IS WELL AND GOOD. stretching your arms out and screaming "love me please!" is ridiculous - and that is what you are doing when you say "i like you".

THAT WON'T FVCKING WORK. if she's attractive, do you realize how many options she has coming at her EVERY DAY?

so don't try to cheat. get in the game and compete. ask her out and do the work. your "liking" is implicit in that.... let it be NO MORE ARTICULATE THAN THAT.

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and if you approach women and life in this way, it becomes CLEAR and EASY that you cannot spend time idolizing any particular girl. first of all, you never wait around for months pining for a girl. if she strikes your fancy, you ASK HER THE FVCK OUT. you're afraid she's gonna say no huh? TOUGH FVCKING LUCK. you'll get turned down. and often.

good lesson. you don't need ANY PARTICULAR GIRL. you blow through her and on to your next. all your "i wonder if she likes me?" shyt is completely blown away the moment you ask her out. don't live life in wonder. FIND OUT. and move on. and NEXT.

delta

 

[Babnik]

WOAH! I did not me ask how to TELL a girl I like her.

How to show is what I meant?

I went on quite a few "dates" that weren't dates but friends-only thing.
Asking for number, asking out doesn't always mean a DATE to every girl.
It does to most.

In college...people are so surrounded by friends and just HUNDREDS of people that it can be hard.

Hell, often you don't NEED to ask a girl out because you see her like every other day and hang out because your schedule is like that.

I guess I am a little AFC whipped by the fact that girls around here do not like to show affection in public. They are afraid of being a slut or something...if I try to put my arm around them in public - they move away. In private - its cool...

So, before I can ask a girl to go to her or my place, I hang out with her in PUBLIC and its hard to SHOW or the PORTRAY the message that I want them...or so it seems. Some girls get it, and others are clueless. I want the clueless ones to get it!

And about ONLINE thing....after I flirt with them online and they SUDDENLY start complimenting me...we DO go out for real and f*ck.
Its just online I am OBVIOUS because I imply sex like everywhere... but with a girl I just met...its hard because you can't think that much when you talk to someone.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I try to have that body language and that eye contact but they aren't responsive. I assume it means - no attraction...WRONG!

Women are subtle. Smiles, return of eye contact, and maybe a playful punch on the arm are all the IOI that you will get from most women, especially in a school setting where many of them know each other. Women are terrified of being seen as desperate chasers of men.

 

[Delta]

same thing bab,

if you ASK HER OUT ONE ON ONE, your point is made. you say "there's no point because..." blah blah...

THERE IS A POINT!

you are revealing your intentions and putting yourself out there.

answer is the same, ASK HER OUT.

delta

 

[Jester090]

same thing bab,

if you ASK HER OUT ONE ON ONE, your point is made. you say "there's no point because..." blah blah...

THERE IS A POINT!

you are revealing your intentions and putting yourself out there.

answer is the same, ASK HER OUT.

delta

Delta, what do you usually say to a girl when you ask her out?? Do you phrase it somewhere along the lines of "do you wanna hang out tonight?"

 

[Delta]

that's fine.

"have dinner with me tonight."

"want to have a drink with me tomorrow?"

"want to go watch casino royale with me?"

"do you want to hang out this weekend? i was planning on blah blah blah and i'd love it if you'd join me."

i'm convinced it doesn't actually matter that much what you say... in bab's case, the idea is that you extend an invitation that's mano a mano so that "your affections" are clear without saying so.

he's wondering about communicating somehow that he likes them.... well, you ask them out and mission accomplished.

delta

 

[Babnik]

that's fine.

"have dinner with me tonight."

"want to have a drink with me tomorrow?"

"want to go watch casino royale with me?"

"do you want to hang out this weekend? i was planning on blah blah blah and i'd love it if you'd join me."

i'm convinced it doesn't actually matter that much what you say... in bab's case, the idea is that you extend an invitation that's mano a mano so that "your affections" are clear without saying so.

he's wondering about communicating somehow that he likes them.... well, you ask them out and mission accomplished.

delta

NO..its DURING hanging out for the first time (after I asked them out) that I can't seem to show anything. And then they don't really want to hang out anymore...and THEN I might talk to them online later and reveal that and they'll be freaking out "Huh? I didn't know you wanted me!"
I need to kind of get to know the girl better before I feel all that comfy with touching her. I guess they expect the guy to do that on the first date or something? Even without touching, VERBALLY on the first date its hard to show her that I want her without saying it...

 

[Jester090]

NO..its DURING hanging out for the first time (after I asked them out) that I can't seem to show anything. And then they don't really want to hang out anymore...and THEN I might talk to them online later and reveal that and they'll be freaking out "Huh? I didn't know you wanted me!"
I need to kind of get to know the girl better before I feel all that comfy with touching her. I guess they expect the guy to do that on the first date or something? Even without touching, VERBALLY on the first date its hard to show her that I want her without saying it...

Babnik, I know exactly what you're talking about man. I find it extremely difficult to kino girls on dates if they don't know that I'm sexually interested in them first. I have an answer for you, that's worked for me.

First off, I disagree with delta in that you should NEVER show your feelings to a woman. This is completely ridiculous, even though I used to believe it was true. You need to let the girl know that her interactions with you are sexually interested from the very beginning, preferably even before you get her number. NO, you don't tell her "I like you" like an 8th grader would--it's best if you ask her about herself [qualify], then tell her you find it sexy how she does something unique. Make it sound genuine. Don't base it off of looks.

So here's how it works: you let a girl you're sexually interested in her, you watch how she reacts. If she takes it well, then you can get her # and set up a date--THEN on that date, she WILL EXPECT you to get physical. Why? Because by now, she knows very clearly, you want her sexually and she HAS to either choose whether she wants you also or doesn't. If she agrees to the date, then SHE HAS AGREED to let you get physical from the beginning. If she doesn't agree to the date, then congratulations--you just saved a lot of time and can move to the next girl before even wasting your time taking the girl out on a date to hear her say "I thought we're just gonna be friends."

Just asking a girl out IS NOT ENOUGH to make your intentions clear man. If it was, then why would we hear all those stories of people getting put in the friends zone after numerous expensive dates with women?? It's because they NEVER let the girl know they were sexually interested in them!! Hope this helps babnik.

 

[squirrels]

Anyway, I try to have that body language and that eye contact but they aren't responsive. I assume it means - no attraction...WRONG!

Do you TRY, or do you DO IT?

You can't half-ass things like eye contact and body language and expect them to half-work. Either she's turned on or she isn't...women don't get half-horny.

Try this...assume she WANTS to bone you...then act accordingly unless she explicitly stops you.

http://gunwitch.fastseduction.com

 

[oakraiderz2]

Uhh...try talking to them, touching them, teasing, asking for their number, and pretty much anything that might "lead" them on if you will. Its really not that hard. If youre attracted to a girl and youre around her your actions will follow you your thoughts.

 

[mrRuckus]

Try this...assume she WANTS to bone you...then act accordingly unless she explicitly stops you.

If she wants to bone you i suggest you find a woman who is at least post op.

 

[Demon]

Personally, I always explicitly state my attraction, and I always do so in unusual situations. Being explicit removes any confusion and guesswork from the equation, and allows you to get down to business. Delta describes this behavior as "AFC".

If it doesn't work for you, it's not necessarily "AFC". It probably won't work for you if you subscribe to this nonsense about being a mystery or playing hard to get. The context must complement your approach. If the context isn't appropriate, your approach just sucks. Read the article in my signature.

By the way, the content of your conversation is entirely irrelevant. It doesn't matter what you say. You can say the dumbest things if you want. What matters is how you say what you say. Are you interesting? Are you compelling? If not, your approach sucks. Read Leil Lownes' How to Talk to Anyone.

 

[deadaim89]

Once again im not gunna waste time reading this ****. YOU DO NOT TELL A GIRL YOU LIKE HER. the whole point of the game is to get her attracted to you, she may eventually discover you like her, like say when you take her out to dinner, but **** kid you dont tell her anything.

 

[Demon]

I like when the newbies think they know everything. It's amusing.