"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tips on how to refrain from snacking/ big or bad meals?

Tomo

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It's been about two weeks since I started to really throw myself into my fitness and diet. Basically I'm sitting at about 2 hrs give or take each day of pretty intense workouts - gym, running, swimming, sports, hobbies etc on top of the mental stimulation that is a hard medical related degree and trying to incorporate more coincedental exercise rather than drive to work or take the elevators etc.

The thing though I've found after logging my diet is that my snacking has increased and my portions have too. When I've come home from a long day or having a break between study or workout sessions, I'll mindlessly pop by the kitchen to snack on something. Meal time comes and I get it into my head to have a bit more salad etc talking myself into the fact I think I am eating right.

Well it is obviously not as I've bumped up a couple kilos last few weeks when I noticed this all happening.

Whats anyone's tips on this situation? Obviously I am trying to go into a calorie deficiency so as to cut but I am struggling really hard - especially after basically a decade and a half of bad eating and not much rigorous exercise. Tips on how to better manage my eating will be greatly appreciated!
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Easy, throw out all the junk/processed food in the house. If its not there, you can't eat it
 

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Thanks bud, but its not junk I'm snacking on. That was the first thing to go when I started getting serious. It's more the nuts, crackers (add a bit of ham and veges to it) and even end up just having a full blown extra meal.

I guess it is more a mental side of things but I find I struggle to concentrate; particularly if I've got a long night of study ahead (cut out caffiene from the diet too).
 

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Raw nuts are great, the roasted/salted/flavored ones not so much...watch sodium intake, it causes you to hold in water weight, and virtually everything has sodium in it...
 

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Tomo said:
Thanks bud, but its not junk I'm snacking on. That was the first thing to go when I started getting serious. It's more the nuts, crackers (add a bit of ham and veges to it) and even end up just having a full blown extra meal.

I guess it is more a mental side of things but I find I struggle to concentrate; particularly if I've got a long night of study ahead (cut out caffiene from the diet too).
Throw out the crackers and the ham. Nuts, almonds, etc are great. Vegetables are great as well.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Have some raw broccoli dipped in your favorite salad dressing, preferably a salad dressing that is not "low fat" and loaded with sugar.

"Vegetables" means something different to different people. In a lot of the southern US, it could mean mashed potatoes, corn with butter, and deep fried okra. Mississippi is the fattest state; they need to lay off that sh!t and eat some raw broccoli instead.
 
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