Tips on how to Cold approach successfully

[Pandora]

I come off as a goofy black dude so im disarming.

I have approached more women than most of the men alive. In the black community we used to do this as a sport. This is esp true if you grew up in the 90s.

Some of the guys I grew up with could charm the panties off your grandmother at your grandaddies funeral.

1.) Cold approaching is genetic. You can get better at it but you will never be cold with it unless you were born with it. Dont try to be something you are not.

2.) You have to be disarming. You can be disarming by being hot, or having a nice smile, or having a chill vibe or just being humorous.

3.) Use pick up lines! Use obscure ones. You use them to be tongue in cheek. They are corny and disarming and cute. Chicks like it.

4.) Be hot or atleast decent looking. Dress well. The better dressed you are the more disarming you will be.

5.) Know your hunting grounds. You will have better luck at one bar/ city vs another. Each city and venue has a vibe. The best places are NYC, Las Vegas and some parts of Texas.

6.) THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT TIP: learn to freaking connect emotionally with a women. How do you do that? You freaking learn to listen more than you talk. Shut your mouth and just ask questions.

7.) Its a numbers game. You are competing with online dating. Most nights you get nothing. Well you will get really good convos with women and you will get numbers. You can leverage those numbers into a casual thing.

You can def get same night make out sessions. Same night sex is kinda rare. It also comes with alot of hidden dangers so careful.

 

[Plinco]

I agree with most of this.

1.) Cold approaching is genetic. You can get better at it but you will never be cold with it unless you were born with it. Dont try to be something you are not.

It's not genetic, but it is a matter of who you are.

Me for example, I'm an extrovert with retard confidence. Having good conversational skills is a trait that I've worked on over the years.

 

[Pandora]

I agree with most of this.



It's not genetic, but it is a matter of who you are.

Me for example, I'm an extrovert with retard confidence. Having good conversational skills is a trait that I've worked on over the years.

Lol yes retard confidence is key.

Do you think that you had the latent genetic capacity to learn conversational skills?

Either way I agree with you bro. You have to develop convo skills. So many guys want to get women but they dont know how to converse ( they talk too much).

 

[Plinco]

Lol yes retard confidence is key.

Do you think that you had the latent genetic capacity to learn conversational skills?

Either way I agree with you bro. You have to develop convo skills. So many guys want to get women but they dont know how to converse ( they talk too much).

Cassius Marcellus Clay Jr (AKA Muhammad Ali) had an estimated IQ of 78 and better conversational skills than most people.

What matters is what kind of person you are, and then it's a matter of doing the work to bring out what's within.


I'm a 41 year old man with a 20 year old heart. I have it within me to be attractive to these young ladies, but it is a matter of doing what is necessary to bring those traits out.

 

[Barrister]

Certainly some people are more predisposed to being better cold approachers by how they grow up. Others who tend to be introverts by nature can struggle with it.

That said, it’s not genetic. Everyone can get better confidence with it and get better with it through practice. I think the key is just getting better at making conversation with BOTH men and women in general. You learn how to keep a convo going by doing it and it doesn’t necessarily have to be during an actual cold approach.

Agree with everything else you said. Just going out there and playing with house money is a good mindset to have while doing it.