"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tips on how to become more patient?

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big weezy said:
you mentioned i should wait 10-15 days to see if she contacts me..

The thing is if I NC and she doesn't get in contact and then I do, won't it seem as if I caved in and grovelling back?

Secondly, if she does contact me it's going to be a 'hey how r u?' Type of text, should I act uninterested and make her work more to regain my interest again?

Like force her to offer a time to meet up, and then I should act wishy washy uninterested till she offers a firm time and day cos I can see.a flake coming on if I agree too quickly given her current back and forths with me.
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+1 to mahoney, he hit the nail on the head! NC is misleading, because while it is a tool to *try* to raise her interest level back up, it is also an escape for YOU. It gives YOU the opportunity to step back, assess the situation, and PURSUE OTHER GIRLS. That way, you won't be so caught up with this one!

It's not groveling. If she texts you some boring crap asking how you are, just reply with something funny, and do NOT get dragged into these long texting conversations. Then, after a few days, make plans to hang out. That's it, no conversation. Just plans. Then, you find out if she's interested or not.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ARrocket said:
+1 to mahoney, he hit the nail on the head! NC is misleading, because while it is a tool to *try* to raise her interest level back up, it is also an escape for YOU. It gives YOU the opportunity to step back, assess the situation, and PURSUE OTHER GIRLS. That way, you won't be so caught up with this one!

It's not groveling. If she texts you some boring crap asking how you are, just reply with something funny, and do NOT get dragged into these long texting conversations. Then, after a few days, make plans to hang out. That's it, no conversation. Just plans. Then, you find out if she's interested or not.
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no i mean it's grovelling if i recontact her after 10-15 days letting her know she still has me.. i followed what you did, tried to make plans to hang out.. not chit chat.. no other crap. no response.

i feel like i shouldn't have contacted at all.. she never recontacted me so obviously she wasn't interested and just enjoyed me chasing.

i think in future it's better to not bother contacting her at all if she doesn't follow up with a firm offer of a time.
 
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If she is not talking to you, she is definitely talking to someone else. Spin the plates :rockon: ...

Dont be her puppet, let her beg you for a date
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