"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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tips needed for first date

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arranged to meet this girl from a dating website for coffee in a Spanish place this weekend.

I'm new to DJ but a girl at a party at the weekend said I was "too nice" and basically quoted back for me everything that is said here. haha

So any do's or don'ts for first date?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Take her on a action date, even if its just taking a walk. Get to know her better and learn more about how she ticks. Ask questions but don't make it an interrogation. Hold off on trying to get laid since you are new. If you can do it and make it seem natural, get a little bit of kino going on.

I usually (unless she is throwing signals of lust) will just try to get to know a girl better on the first date. Keep it to an hour or two.
 
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ok, yeah one thing I was wondering is that basically I have a kung fu class at 7.30 and Im seeing her at 5.

So would a jerk call it quits at 7, not apologize but simply explain they have somewhere to go?
 
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Nothing wrong with that. Just tell her you have your class later. That way you arent giving too much time to a girl. You get to know her better and also go to class. Some AFC might schedule his whole night to be with her.. cmon thats lame. You are a busy guy and she just needs to be ready when you call on her.
 
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its fine that you have some where else to go, kung fu class sounds cool.

its a first date, but dont go in thinking about focusing on attraction.

View this as an opportunity to see if she is cool enough to hang with you! can she convince you to see her again on another date ?? :)

" beauty is common" - as some weird tall guy in a bear skin hat once said :)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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