"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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another_nice_guy

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arranged to meet this girl from a dating website for coffee in a Spanish place this weekend.

I'm new to DJ but a girl at a party at the weekend said I was "too nice" and basically quoted back for me everything that is said here. haha

So any do's or don'ts for first date?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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3countriesPlan

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Take her on a action date, even if its just taking a walk. Get to know her better and learn more about how she ticks. Ask questions but don't make it an interrogation. Hold off on trying to get laid since you are new. If you can do it and make it seem natural, get a little bit of kino going on.

I usually (unless she is throwing signals of lust) will just try to get to know a girl better on the first date. Keep it to an hour or two.
 

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ok, yeah one thing I was wondering is that basically I have a kung fu class at 7.30 and Im seeing her at 5.

So would a jerk call it quits at 7, not apologize but simply explain they have somewhere to go?
 

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Nothing wrong with that. Just tell her you have your class later. That way you arent giving too much time to a girl. You get to know her better and also go to class. Some AFC might schedule his whole night to be with her.. cmon thats lame. You are a busy guy and she just needs to be ready when you call on her.
 

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its fine that you have some where else to go, kung fu class sounds cool.

its a first date, but dont go in thinking about focusing on attraction.

View this as an opportunity to see if she is cool enough to hang with you! can she convince you to see her again on another date ?? :)

" beauty is common" - as some weird tall guy in a bear skin hat once said :)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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