"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tips for spinning plates?

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As a beginner and newbie who has done ok without the game stuff, but wants to really hit this ****.... one of the reasons being I realise I've got massive inner game buttons that I'm gonna get some help with.

I notice I can learn a lot of the stuff and deliver it but I really come crashing down after a few dates due to my ****ty deep self-beliefs.

So I can start out with positive attitude but soon after couple of dates get too emotionally invested and go afc and screw it up.

Oneitis has always been a problem... and I realise the best route to avoiding this is to spin plates...

now problem is while I'm learning game, I'm not going to have a harem straight away, even if I sarge constantly, in this beginning phase, I'm gonna struggle to get more than one or two numbers a week, so often that ends up with me getting a date with a girl while chasing others. But what I need is to be dating a girl or two at same time to avoid oneitis, but my inner/outer game probably isn't strong enough at the mo to engineer such a situation.

Any tips on how to work with this?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm working on the same thing. It's tough, especially in a small town. But I am starting to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I'm sorry I'm not much help. I more or less posted because I want to keep this thread going and maybe I can learn something.
 

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Spinning plates doesn't necessarily refer to gaming and dating multiple girls at the same time. Obviously if you want to engage in anything approaching an LTR with one girl, spinning plates in this way is not practical.

Most simply put, it just refers to having options. Even if you are involved in a serious LTR with one girl, you should always have a platter of girls who you can immediately turn to for replacement. You personally know these girls and are in contact with them, but that doesn't mean you flirt with them... or date them.

You're in a terrible situation if the one girl you're in a relationship with is the only girl you've been in personal contact with for weeks or months.
 

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Can you be more specific with what you need help with?

Obviously, you need to get that self-confidence up. YOU are a high-value, alpha male that only the best women deserve.

Gaming, always work on your C&F and Push/Pull skills. Don't be afraid to fail. Keep those mindsets and you should gradually start getting in the groove.

But again, if you can provide more details of exactly what you're struggling with, it might help.
 

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sighsigh said:
Spinning plates doesn't necessarily refer to gaming and dating multiple girls at the same time. Obviously if you want to engage in anything approaching an LTR with one girl, spinning plates in this way is not practical.

Most simply put, it just refers to having options. Even if you are involved in a serious LTR with one girl, you should always have a platter of girls who you can immediately turn to for replacement. You personally know these girls and are in contact with them, but that doesn't mean you flirt with them... or date them.

You're in a terrible situation if the one girl you're in a relationship with is the only girl you've been in personal contact with for weeks or months.
I agree with this post 100%. Check out this thread to get a better grasp of it
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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