"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tips for spinning plates?

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As a beginner and newbie who has done ok without the game stuff, but wants to really hit this ****.... one of the reasons being I realise I've got massive inner game buttons that I'm gonna get some help with.

I notice I can learn a lot of the stuff and deliver it but I really come crashing down after a few dates due to my ****ty deep self-beliefs.

So I can start out with positive attitude but soon after couple of dates get too emotionally invested and go afc and screw it up.

Oneitis has always been a problem... and I realise the best route to avoiding this is to spin plates...

now problem is while I'm learning game, I'm not going to have a harem straight away, even if I sarge constantly, in this beginning phase, I'm gonna struggle to get more than one or two numbers a week, so often that ends up with me getting a date with a girl while chasing others. But what I need is to be dating a girl or two at same time to avoid oneitis, but my inner/outer game probably isn't strong enough at the mo to engineer such a situation.

Any tips on how to work with this?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I'm working on the same thing. It's tough, especially in a small town. But I am starting to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I'm sorry I'm not much help. I more or less posted because I want to keep this thread going and maybe I can learn something.
 

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Spinning plates doesn't necessarily refer to gaming and dating multiple girls at the same time. Obviously if you want to engage in anything approaching an LTR with one girl, spinning plates in this way is not practical.

Most simply put, it just refers to having options. Even if you are involved in a serious LTR with one girl, you should always have a platter of girls who you can immediately turn to for replacement. You personally know these girls and are in contact with them, but that doesn't mean you flirt with them... or date them.

You're in a terrible situation if the one girl you're in a relationship with is the only girl you've been in personal contact with for weeks or months.
 

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Can you be more specific with what you need help with?

Obviously, you need to get that self-confidence up. YOU are a high-value, alpha male that only the best women deserve.

Gaming, always work on your C&F and Push/Pull skills. Don't be afraid to fail. Keep those mindsets and you should gradually start getting in the groove.

But again, if you can provide more details of exactly what you're struggling with, it might help.
 

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sighsigh said:
Spinning plates doesn't necessarily refer to gaming and dating multiple girls at the same time. Obviously if you want to engage in anything approaching an LTR with one girl, spinning plates in this way is not practical.

Most simply put, it just refers to having options. Even if you are involved in a serious LTR with one girl, you should always have a platter of girls who you can immediately turn to for replacement. You personally know these girls and are in contact with them, but that doesn't mean you flirt with them... or date them.

You're in a terrible situation if the one girl you're in a relationship with is the only girl you've been in personal contact with for weeks or months.
I agree with this post 100%. Check out this thread to get a better grasp of it
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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