Tips For Short Guys?

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I looked around on the forums but couldn't find anything substantial on this so I figured I'd ask.

I'm young (19) and relatively short (5'7"). I'd describe myself as in shape/handsome (Starting Strength and a clean bulk does wonders when you're young), and I have way more status than most men my age (financially independent with solid self-employment), yet I seem to have very little success with online dating. I suspect this is mostly due to my lack of altitude (my short friends of varying age groups and levels of attractiveness experience the same thing).

Any tips for how to increase your value as a short guy or how to better present yourself in the online dating world?
 
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1) Don't take this site seriously...most of the people here are pretty delusional and kind of damaged in their views. You're a kid, so go have fun and stop worrying about this crap.

2) Get off of online dating...it's nothing more than a sh*t show for attention and will NOT teach you social/coping skills. It's more like a game and not worth bothering with.

3) Grab some friends and start going out to different places on weekends until you find your environment. Don't worry about approaching women...find your spot where you blend in seamlessly and just do your thing. Get comfortable with your surroundings and it'll start to get easy.

I'm your height and have NEVER had issues with being "short". I love my height and don't really act short or think of it as a problem, which in turn goes a long long way. Everybody has preferences, so who cares if you don't tick somebody's boxes. I get approached by women all the time while I'm out and about just doing my thing and not worrying or trying...just live life and be an interesting/good person and have a spark to everything that you do, and you'll have people come to you.

Other than that, work out A LOT and dress with a good sense of style, which does not mean to overdress all the time. Girls also love a guy who can converse, be witty, and think/act off the top of his head as well. You just can't be boring as a person...height will not save that.
 
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Yup lie about your height.. 5ft7 put yourself down as 5ft8

Don't sweat it... Woman lie all the time.

Every filtered online pic you see of a chick is a exaggeration or a straight up lie.
 

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Yup lie about your height.. 5ft7 put yourself down as 5ft8

Don't sweat it... Woman lie all the time.

Every filtered online pic you see of a chick is a exaggeration or a straight up lie.
Which is why online dating is total crap...it has more in common with something like collecting pokemon than it does with getting you anywhere with actual dating in the real world.

Why sift through people online relying on altered pics and lies while hoping for a hit, when you can just go out in person, bypass all of that crap, and approach/be approached by people that you are attracted to/are attracted to you? Isn't that what you'll have to do in the end anyway? Learn how to do it early...it's a life skill.

The Snapchat generation is freakin' screwed :whistle:
 
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Women online discriminatie against short men because they expect you to have the same inferiority complex that so many other short men have. They also shave 2" off your height in their expectations if you list yourself as less than 6'. So when you say five nine, they expect five six or seven, because so many guys lie. Be yourself and be happy with who you are, and that will get you more women than being any specific height, especially when you talk to them in person.
 
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1) Don't take this site seriously...most of the people here are pretty delusional and kind of damaged in their views. You're a kid, so go have fun and stop worrying about this crap.

2) Get off of online dating...it's nothing more than a sh*t show for attention and will NOT teach you social/coping skills. It's more like a game and not worth bothering with.

3) Grab some friends and start going out to different places on weekends until you find your environment. Don't worry about approaching women...find your spot where you blend in seamlessly and just do your thing. Get comfortable with your surroundings and it'll start to get easy.

I'm your height and have NEVER had issues with being "short". I love my height and don't really act short or think of it as a problem, which in turn goes a long long way. Everybody has preferences, so who cares if you don't tick somebody's boxes. I get approached by women all the time while I'm out and about just doing my thing and not worrying or trying...just live life and be an interesting/good person and have a spark to everything that you do, and you'll have people come to you.

Other than that, work out A LOT and dress with a good sense of style, which does not mean to overdress all the time. Girls also love a guy who can converse, be witty, and think/act off the top of his head as well. You just can't be boring as a person...height will not save that.
Actually most of this works at any height but not many here would do it since they're bums who prefer to laze around on Tinder trying to chat girls up.

There's some guys on here that's more then 6 feet and claim to look like Greek God's but can't get laid or are/have/will be getting religiously dumped by women.

It's all in the mindset that will influence how you act to ur surroundings which ultimately generates results.

If results is not achieved then reexamine the way you think.
 

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Be yourself and be happy with who you are, and that will get you more women than being any specific height, especially when you talk to them in person.
Best advice.

Own your height, own your frame, never apologize for who you are.

Be your best REAL self, be happy with your best and continuously improving best self, and fake motherfvckers who are concerned with superficial appearances.

LEAD with your height on social media. Figure out a way to use it as your main BENEFIT.

Be creative and experiment, see it only as PRACTICE for the real world.
 

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Lol jk

Own it. Fix posture. Read what your body is saying by Joe Navarro. Play the hand you are dealt. Get deezed. Lift heavy. Clean up diet.

Climb the dominance hierarchy. Win.
 

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You should redefine your understanding of "success in online dating". Even most goodlooking guys don't get matched with MAJORITY of women and they need to swipe hundreds of them to get laid once. Also it is 90% about your photos, it is very likely what they suck. Guy who is 6/10 in looks could be perceived either like 4/10 if his photos bad or like 8/10 if they are really good. Google "playing with fire" guy for more info (almost all of it for free). Your height means nothing, just don't mention it anywhere and joke if you are asked (which wouldn't happen a lot).
 
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I'm 5'8/5'9. Zero problem getting women.

If you're attractive, youre attractive. Personality, confidence and charisma along with being decently attractive trumps being just tall.
 

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my opinion: If I have to go through that to get poontang, I'll just continue escortcelling. :down:
 

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Don't use online dating *at all* and don't waste your time in clubs *except in big groups of friends*.

Your money maker is going to be broad daylight, social circles, social scenes, or in some cases smaller bar type situations.

Height is always going to matter at least somewhat but it matters to an extent that is detached from reality to the upside in places like clubs and online dating.
 

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I looked around on the forums but couldn't find anything substantial on this so I figured I'd ask.

I'm young (19) and relatively short (5'7"). I'd describe myself as in shape/handsome (Starting Strength and a clean bulk does wonders when you're young), and I have way more status than most men my age (financially independent with solid self-employment), yet I seem to have very little success with online dating. I suspect this is mostly due to my lack of altitude (my short friends of varying age groups and levels of attractiveness experience the same thing).

Any tips for how to increase your value as a short guy or how to better present yourself in the online dating world?
The short guys that I've seen slay are all funny. And i mean ALL. I have never seen a short guy game from being "smooth" or "seductive". They were ALL funny. Think Kevin Hart. I am sure you have examples in your own life where you know short guys being funny. But those that are funny absoultely slay. For another reason you may have never thought of. Since they are short, most guys don't perceive them as a threat. If you are handsome, buff, tall, or successful, a lot of guys will HATE you and will NOT want to be with you as you point out their short coming. But if you are short you make them secure. It sucks but its the way of the world. This means you can make a lot more friends and thus be in the social circle. If you are funny, girls will just have sex with you because you are in the "group". Seen it multiple times. There is hope for short guys. No excuses. Don't know about dwarfism though. Sorry about that.
 

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Which is why online dating is total crap...it has more in common with something like collecting pokemon than it does with getting you anywhere with actual dating in the real world.

Why sift through people online relying on altered pics and lies while hoping for a hit, when you can just go out in person, bypass all of that crap, and approach/be approached by people that you are attracted to/are attracted to you? Isn't that what you'll have to do in the end anyway? Learn how to do it early...it's a life skill.

The Snapchat generation is freakin' screwed :whistle:
Now that average girls can slide into DMs of celebrities, the average man is screwed. Social media and online dating are the worst enemy of 99% of single men on the planet.
 
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Now that average girls can slide into DMs of celebrities, the average man is screwed. Social media and online dating are the worst enemy of 99% of single men on the planet.
Limiting belief. If you are a masculine good dude who is connected to himself you’ll do well.
 

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Now that average girls can slide into DMs of celebrities, the average man is screwed. Social media and online dating are the worst enemy of 99% of single men on the planet.
It's so damned true...nothing but a big ol' game that distorts reality. Point in case, a height listing of 5'6" online would get filtered-out...but in real life, those same girls would have no problem with a guy that height approaching them or whatever. It's all just a bunch of disconnected crap...and a girl's inbox = box o' ****s; whether they actually meet these guys in person or not, the attention and back and forth game is definitely there and no these girls will not drop any of it.

But about height...I've never understood wanting somebody dramatically taller or shorter; everything to me is without a doubt at its best when you're closer to being the same height...everything from hugs, kissing,making out, flirting, holding hands, heads on shoulders, dancing, whatever etc, makes a million times more sense and is far easier to work with and less clumsy. I kind of think people are stupid for thinking otherwise.
 

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I've taken my height off my OLD profile. I'm the same height as you, and I only swipe right on women 5'6" under.

That said, I get way more attention from women when I look them in the eyes and smile at them in the real world than I ever do with online apps. OLD is mostly a waste of time. I've picked up hot women with a smile that would never have swiped right on me online.

Someone made a really good point the other day saying that online dating attracts a certain type of woman, and that those who are online are also in the minority. Relying on apps limits your dating pool to the wrong kind of women.
 

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Around OP’s height but older. Decent shape and good face. I add an inch to my height on my Tinder profile. I usually don’t swipe on taller women. Been on Tinder 3 months and it has been fantastic. In my experience, height hasn’t been much of a negative. I really think it’s mostly about face.
 
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