"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tips for getting bartenders chicks.....

speedo_meme

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We all know bartender girls get hit on all the time. Anybody had success in general with pulling some ass from bartenders?

There's a HB7 working at a bar I go to every now and again, and she's friendly and saying "baby" and sh*t like that to everyone. She was flirty with us and all, and we didn't really talk much, but I noticed a little EC she was giving me. I ignored her basically because we had some other girls. At the end of the night I saw her looking at me so I figured what the h*ll, told her to come over and told her to give me her number. She said "Why don't you give me yours" and I said "Give me your number" and she did it. I love being firm with girls haha but I bet she's got a boyfriend. Anyways, thought it was funny how NOT hitting on a girl can get you the girl sometimes. I didn't even talk to this chick for more than 30 seconds, and body language did the rest.....

Now I'm saying I've bagged her or anything, just wanting some comments.....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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IronFar

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What "comment(ary)" are you looking for?

Seriously - do your fukking thing. You DO NOT NEED SS.net FORUM VALIDATION. :cool:
 

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The thing to do in this case.
Become a regular at a bar. This only takes a minimum investment say 1 night a week at the absolute most (I've been a regular at 1 time every 2 weeks, just by having a great personality).

Then talk about stuff outside of work. Before you know it you will be hanging out with her outside of a bar on her night off. You do this by talking about what bars you like etc.

It takes a while but it can be done.

BTW every time I did this, it was only because i wanted a place to drink from time to time, not because i was after a particular bartender.
 

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Here's an example which may work for you:

I went to a bar in Denver with some friends for several weeks (Funky Buddha) and we always sat at a table. We always had some hot (but psychotic!) chicks with us, co-workers and what not. The waitress was a perfect 10. Stunning. My buddy tried to chat her up and what not, and she would just shut him down - it was classic.

I was very business like with her. I told her what I wanted and that was it. I would give her EC, but no flirting, no talking, nothing. I would watch guys fall all over her everywhere she went.

Finally, she brought me a drink (****tail) that tasted like crap. I told her to take it back and have them make it right. I noticed the bartender just re-mixed the same drink. She brought it back, and I tasted it, and it was still crap. I told her to take it back and this time have the bartender make it NEW and make it RIGHT. I was polite but firm.

Sure enough the drink was fine. And she was a little pissed off, I could tell.

10 minutes later she was sitting next to me, trying to get me to talk to her. The rest is history. My buddy was absolutely floored, because I told him that if I ignored her she'd be all over me.

Moral of the story - make her know you want things done right, and don't tolerate less than perfect.
 

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I agree w/ Diablo's idea. His approach brings up another way that I thought of. We'll all agree the typical AFC flirting / buying her drinks won't work.

If you have a confident demeaner when she comes around and bust her balls, in a ****y way, aka joking around about her being your servant etc.... You can also separate yourself from all the other chumps.

You have to make sure that you have the game to back this up though. You can't look like a chump w/ your friends, you'll have to act like your Donald Trump and you own the place kinda thing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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