"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tips for clueless highschoolers with questions.

secks

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I see a lot of posts about what should I talk to her about, or should I ask her this or do that.

You shouldn't need to post on the forums asking about every little move you are going to make. Think for yourself, because attraction is dynamic. It dosn't follow set guidelines.

1. Talking to girls.

What should you talk to girls about? When do you talk to them? In what ways do you communicate with them?

There have been a couple of posts asking about how to have conversations with girls and what to talk to them about.
Here's my advice: make it natural. If you force yourself to talk about things, what are you going to do when you are in a relationship?
-Don't milk it. If the conversation drifts off, let it go, don't try to get her to keep talking.
-Don't talk about feelings, especially yours, and also emotional problems.
-Every girl has some topic that will get them going, find this, and you won't be able to get them to stop talking.

Don't talk to girls on the phone, or text them other than to set up meetings initially. Don't text hey how are you. And when you text, don't use any of that stupid text lingo. It looks immature and stupid.

2. Dealing with girls.

Girls think differently than guys. They forget to call you back, they can feel like not doing anything for no reason, and they usually value their friends highly.

Probably the most important point I am going to make in this post is to not freak out.

When you call up a girl to hang out, and she has something else to do, under no circumstances freak out and question them.

Tell them "ok" politely, and tell them you'll call them some other time. (don't call like the next day or anything stupid like that)

NEVER text them saying something like, oh i guess you arn't so interested.

If you call her, and she dosn't answer. Don't leave a message begging her to call you back, and especially don't text again later.

She either: didn't want to answer, wasn't there, or her phone didn't get the call.

If she didn't want to answer, there's nothing you can do. If she wasn't there, she will call you back. If she didn't get it, she will the next time you call her.

When you leave a message or text her, it takes the mystery away from why you called.



That's it for tonight, if you have any questions ask, I won't bite.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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lil hooligan

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what do you do if she is with a group of friends and you want to talk to her alone/seperatley
 

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"When you leave a message or text her, it takes the mystery away from why you called." this is a good point. Many people don't think about this but this is something important I think.
 

jeffthechef

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What if you were getting the feeling she wasn't interested in you as the conversation progressed? I've been watching a bunch of movies ranging from comedy to horror and everything in between, and i've noticed that the guy always pursues until she gives in or rejects him extravagantly. So..Should i keep the conversation going? Should i ask her out somewhere (movies, park, etc) to find out what's going on? Should i just end it? Thanks:eek:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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