"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tip from "Fire In The Belly"

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"Fire In The Belly: On Being A Man" is a pretty damn good book. It has a few wussy feminist moments which I can just imagine Pook ripping to shreds, but the bulk of it is gold. It's basically GOOD FEMINISM, the dispensing of the definitions of man that hold us back.

The quote which I wanna share is something which the author himself was quoting. Though I don't remember who from, can't be bothered to check. Anyways,

"The first question you should ask is, 'where am I going?'. The second is, 'Who will go with me?' If you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble".

Very wise sh'it.

The answer to "where am I going?" is not "woman". The ladies want to share in your answer to number 1. In fact, the same goes for making friends.


THere are some really excellent books about masculinity out there, something which could make you feel a bit of a chump for having forked out 5000$ for the latest David DeAngelo CD-set.

The other book I'd recommend is "The way of the superior man" by david deida. It's an amazing book. The guy gets it in a totally spiritual manner.


What would you recommend, book wise?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to Win Friends, Influence People, and Succeed in a Changing World; Dale Carnegie

That quote is dead-on. Infact, many times when i'm out with women I will speak to them about my life and its direction as being a mission that I am on. And I will explain that the people in my life are part of that mission.
 

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'Seven habits of highly effective people' - Covey. Similar work to Carnegie
 

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True words, man, true words. Seems like I have to get the book.
 
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