"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tip from "Fire In The Belly"

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"Fire In The Belly: On Being A Man" is a pretty damn good book. It has a few wussy feminist moments which I can just imagine Pook ripping to shreds, but the bulk of it is gold. It's basically GOOD FEMINISM, the dispensing of the definitions of man that hold us back.

The quote which I wanna share is something which the author himself was quoting. Though I don't remember who from, can't be bothered to check. Anyways,

"The first question you should ask is, 'where am I going?'. The second is, 'Who will go with me?' If you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble".

Very wise sh'it.

The answer to "where am I going?" is not "woman". The ladies want to share in your answer to number 1. In fact, the same goes for making friends.


THere are some really excellent books about masculinity out there, something which could make you feel a bit of a chump for having forked out 5000$ for the latest David DeAngelo CD-set.

The other book I'd recommend is "The way of the superior man" by david deida. It's an amazing book. The guy gets it in a totally spiritual manner.


What would you recommend, book wise?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to Win Friends, Influence People, and Succeed in a Changing World; Dale Carnegie

That quote is dead-on. Infact, many times when i'm out with women I will speak to them about my life and its direction as being a mission that I am on. And I will explain that the people in my life are part of that mission.
 

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'Seven habits of highly effective people' - Covey. Similar work to Carnegie
 

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True words, man, true words. Seems like I have to get the book.
 
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