"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Tinder testing height filters

jhonny9546

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This is the news:
Tinder is testing a height filter.


For shorter guys, this is a double-edged sword. Most women will probably set the filter to 180 cm or above. But if a woman sets her preference below 165 cm, it could indicate genuine interest in shorter men, allowing them to filter for "high-interest" matches.


It’s also a double-edged sword for women. Some may use the filter simply because they want a tall guy, but then end up missing out on a great connection with someone shorter who could have genuinely won them over.


So, what do you all think about this feature?


In my opinion, this is Tinder’s way of getting more women to pay for the app, since the height filter seems targeted mainly at them.
As for men, maybe a weight filter will be added in the future?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sevbucmash

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You are lucky to be in Italy.

Here in the U.S. weight filter would be highly appropriate. You often see fat women with average, tall skinny guys, kissing in public, it's disgusting.
 

jhonny9546

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Not so common here in Italy, but we're getting there! (You see this is common in <35's couples)
 

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A woman can intuitively and spiritually sense whether you're a good decent dude or not even if she doesn't know you and looks at your profile pic. That's one of their super abilities lol
 

justaroundthecorner

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Height filter is fine as long as weight filter will come in too.

Such things as strong preference for tall guys or slim women should be indicated (or able to be pursued) in such apps always (to not waste time & money). I am not tall and I doubt I have ever dated a female with strong preference for tall guys (they do not pay attention to you at all if you are not tall), however I was on a tinder-date that neither I nor a female disclosed height and it turned out not only she was taller than me, she also had obvious preference for taller guys (she was annoyed that she was locked in social situation she did not want to be in pretty much since the first minute of our meeting). You cannot fight with your preferences therefore I think putting details such as height or weight should be highly recommended.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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GoodMan32

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You are lucky to be in Italy.

Here in the U.S. weight filter would be highly appropriate. You often see fat women with average, tall skinny guys, kissing in public, it's disgusting.
Some of these skinny men might like fatties.

As for the height filter, I joined Tinder yesterday. I know my height of 5'9" could make a woman disqualify me in some cases. I really don't think my height holds me back as much as certain other factors, however.
 

Rainman4707

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This is the news:
Tinder is testing a height filter.


For shorter guys, this is a double-edged sword. Most women will probably set the filter to 180 cm or above. But if a woman sets her preference below 165 cm, it could indicate genuine interest in shorter men, allowing them to filter for "high-interest" matches.


It’s also a double-edged sword for women. Some may use the filter simply because they want a tall guy, but then end up missing out on a great connection with someone shorter who could have genuinely won them over.


So, what do you all think about this feature?


In my opinion, this is Tinder’s way of getting more women to pay for the app, since the height filter seems targeted mainly at them.
As for men, maybe a weight filter will be added in the future?
Can we have a fat filter? Of course they won't allow that. Double standards. Two tiers. Why can women have a heighr filter, yet men cannot have a weight filter? We all know this will never happen.
 

BaronOfHair

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Double standards. Two tiers. Why can women have a heighr filter, yet men cannot have a weight filter? We all know this will never happen.
These exist in many areas of life... Why can those of us who "look Hispanic" or "look Near Eastern"(some might say "Look like a terrorist")not go through TSA, without at least a 50% probability of being stopped by TSA? Even though it's by now well-documented that drug cartels use Pale Faces as drug mules quite frequently, and that terrorists(whatever THAT word means)come in an infinite array of shapes and colors, and act in the name of a sh-tloads of causes aside from fundamentalist Islam?

Societal prejudices really aren't curable, no matter how fervidly we denounce them
 

Hamurabimbi

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I added 2” to my height on Tinder. I listed my height in my bio. Was never called out on it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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