"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tinder openers for really hot chicks?

MoreThanSmooth

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So most girls respond to my Tinder openers nicely. But the most physically attractive girls seem to be really crabby when it comes to openers and just ghost most of the time.

I've had 2 super likes this week from girls who were absolutely smoking but I just got ghosted with my opener. Kinda weird tbh. I'm sure they weren't bots, though.

If I go out of my way to be the "cool guy" commenting on her profile or pic in some way (I.e. "Sweet pic of the Grand Canyon there, went there myself") it's too long and not sexy enough and I'm ignored.

But if you go short and generic ("Hi hotness, blah blah.") you're probably getting ignored too.

So how do you guys normally do it?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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flowtheory

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So most girls respond to my Tinder openers nicely. But the most physically attractive girls seem to be really crabby when it comes to openers and just ghost most of the time.

I've had 2 super likes this week from girls who were absolutely smoking but I just got ghosted with my opener. Kinda weird tbh. I'm sure they weren't bots, though.

If I go out of my way to be the "cool guy" commenting on her profile or pic in some way (I.e. "Sweet pic of the Grand Canyon there, went there myself") it's too long and not sexy enough and I'm ignored.

But if you go short and generic ("Hi hotness, blah blah.") you're probably getting ignored too.

So how do you guys normally do it?
Never comment on her physicality. Only after sex do I now compliment a woman’s physical beauty. Before that it’s about intrinsic personality qualities.

The problem here is that you’re pedastalizing hot women and in turn you’re over analyzing your first steps towards taking action.
Solution; message hotties like everyone else - something that provokes a response, is fun, original and isn’t cookie cutter. Think outside the box. If she responds, great. If she doesn’t, who cares?

Want more responses and more matches? Show you have an exciting lifestyle, post great pics, be more attractive, write a decent self blurb. I get ignored by mediocre chicks, and then messaged by hot women. Go figure. There’s no secret formula except what I just stated for general advice in the OLD world.

But what really matters is reality. Approach a woman in public and you’ll grow faster than perfecting your online game. Plus you’re communicating to your own self that you’re going for what YOU want in life as opposed to being accepted by the people who respond to your witty lines.

Online dating is a tool in the kit. However it shouldn’t be the main source of new ‘romantic’ connections, otherwise to much is being left out of your hands.

I recently asked about ten women how often they get approached in the real world by men. None of these women were below a 6. It varied from 0 times a month to 3, then the most attractive woman only once a week!! That’s terrible. Contrast that to OLD. The OLD world is saturated. And people get annoyed and think it’s them. Nah. It’s because it’s a circus in all senses.
Logically, where do you hold the best chances of obtaining a bountiful amount of plates based on this information we already know?
 
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Fzatf

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I find humor to be the best bet for keeping a girl interested through old. If they're laughing they're having fun. Though I don't change it up for really hot chicks or anything. If they ghost I'm thinking they just received interest from someone they find hotter.
 
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