"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tinder openers for really hot chicks?

MoreThanSmooth

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So most girls respond to my Tinder openers nicely. But the most physically attractive girls seem to be really crabby when it comes to openers and just ghost most of the time.

I've had 2 super likes this week from girls who were absolutely smoking but I just got ghosted with my opener. Kinda weird tbh. I'm sure they weren't bots, though.

If I go out of my way to be the "cool guy" commenting on her profile or pic in some way (I.e. "Sweet pic of the Grand Canyon there, went there myself") it's too long and not sexy enough and I'm ignored.

But if you go short and generic ("Hi hotness, blah blah.") you're probably getting ignored too.

So how do you guys normally do it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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flowtheory

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So most girls respond to my Tinder openers nicely. But the most physically attractive girls seem to be really crabby when it comes to openers and just ghost most of the time.

I've had 2 super likes this week from girls who were absolutely smoking but I just got ghosted with my opener. Kinda weird tbh. I'm sure they weren't bots, though.

If I go out of my way to be the "cool guy" commenting on her profile or pic in some way (I.e. "Sweet pic of the Grand Canyon there, went there myself") it's too long and not sexy enough and I'm ignored.

But if you go short and generic ("Hi hotness, blah blah.") you're probably getting ignored too.

So how do you guys normally do it?
Never comment on her physicality. Only after sex do I now compliment a woman’s physical beauty. Before that it’s about intrinsic personality qualities.

The problem here is that you’re pedastalizing hot women and in turn you’re over analyzing your first steps towards taking action.
Solution; message hotties like everyone else - something that provokes a response, is fun, original and isn’t cookie cutter. Think outside the box. If she responds, great. If she doesn’t, who cares?

Want more responses and more matches? Show you have an exciting lifestyle, post great pics, be more attractive, write a decent self blurb. I get ignored by mediocre chicks, and then messaged by hot women. Go figure. There’s no secret formula except what I just stated for general advice in the OLD world.

But what really matters is reality. Approach a woman in public and you’ll grow faster than perfecting your online game. Plus you’re communicating to your own self that you’re going for what YOU want in life as opposed to being accepted by the people who respond to your witty lines.

Online dating is a tool in the kit. However it shouldn’t be the main source of new ‘romantic’ connections, otherwise to much is being left out of your hands.

I recently asked about ten women how often they get approached in the real world by men. None of these women were below a 6. It varied from 0 times a month to 3, then the most attractive woman only once a week!! That’s terrible. Contrast that to OLD. The OLD world is saturated. And people get annoyed and think it’s them. Nah. It’s because it’s a circus in all senses.
Logically, where do you hold the best chances of obtaining a bountiful amount of plates based on this information we already know?
 
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Fzatf

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I find humor to be the best bet for keeping a girl interested through old. If they're laughing they're having fun. Though I don't change it up for really hot chicks or anything. If they ghost I'm thinking they just received interest from someone they find hotter.
 
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