"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tinder help too many matches

DarkMachiavellian

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What's up so recently I got a tinder to try out and I never had one before and in 6 days today I have 283 matches and still going. I moved to California so I figured I tried this out and the response is unbelievable. I have to decide who to talk to and what not but my problem is I don't know how to initiate the conversation like I don't want to keep saying hey whats up or how are you or how to get the number and set this up. I usually do things in person
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I do not do Tinder, but am on a few other sites. Just reach out and say hey, how's your day. It's all based on photos. If your photos are tight, you'd get responses. If not, then no.
 

DarkMachiavellian

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I do not do Tinder, but am on a few other sites. Just reach out and say hey, how's your day. It's all based on photos. If your photos are tight, you'd get responses. If not, then no.
No I get responses but most of the conversations turn dry
 

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Good for you. Let us know how many of those turn into actual dates. I have very little success on Tinder compared to Bumble.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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