"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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met her off tinder...chat...get her number...a couple of texts, show some charm and make plans to meet up tonight. except she works late and tells me to come see her at work. says i can play some blackjack until she gets off...she works at a casino as a banker.
im all ok...not a bad way to spend the night.
so she asks if im going. i say yes, then she says ok but you cant spend the night at my place. lol

how did that come up? so i ask her why she said that...she says she has roomates thats why.

umm ok...but i wasnt even thinking about seeing her place on the first meet up. what you bros think is going on here?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i think im gonna blow her off and tell her im a recovering gambler. something is not smelling right here. meeting her up at work is kinda weird for me...then shes already assuming i want to spend the night at her place...
 

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Nah. I wouldn't call it a bad sign too soon. She's probably just **** testing you.
 

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I actually talked her into meeting me up for her lunch break. I still feel kinda weak for going to her work place But its a casino so I can play some games too. And she did mention how I would have fun meeting her like that....I guess as opposed to like a dinner date... And I agree...free drinks while I play penny slots don't sound like a bad day.
 

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_sideways_ said:
I actually talked her into meeting me up for her lunch break. I still feel kinda weak for going to her work place But its a casino so I can play some games too. And she did mention how I would have fun meeting her like that....I guess as opposed to like a dinner date... And I agree...free drinks while I play penny slots don't sound like a bad day.
You're approaching this with a good mindset. Just go in there to have fun regardless if she's a good woman or not it whether you get a bang.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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the "cant sleep at my place" bit sounds like a **** test.
 

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Ok...so I saw her and she seemed pleased with me. Held my hand...hugged bodies while walking...kissed her on the cheeks as I left her. She told me to call her later...
It was easy date...just coffee...she found out about me and me more about her....

That's that. Now I need to find my high for the night. Can't waste this high I'm feeling... Thank god I work out
 

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_sideways_ said:
Ok...so I saw her and she seemed pleased with me. Held my hand...hugged bodies while walking...kissed her on the cheeks as I left her. She told me to call her later...
It was easy date...just coffee...she found out about me and me more about her....

That's that. Now I need to find my high for the night. Can't waste this high I'm feeling... Thank god I work out

I hope you're not gonna call her tonight. Right? Wait a couple of days.
 

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she called me when she got off work at the time she said she would be off....im chilling now eating and getting my buzzed on until she calls again....she kinda banging....not skinny...cant wait to tell how sexy she is...but nice smile for sure
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Her: ok but you cant spend the night at my place. lol

Me: That's cool, sleep is the last thing we'd be doing anyway ;)


This is basic game here.

You gotta understand once a girl brings up sex in anyway (90% of the time its negatively) shes thought of sleepig with you. You just gotta play it cool and keep building that tension.
 

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i texted her on my way home...just texted her some thoughts....probably AFC since i was drunk....maybe alpha by being so nonchalant about it.

i didnt get a text back until....2 in the morning with her texting hi.

i immediately called her and we had a heart to heart about what she expects and what i am willing to offer her.

she knows i want the sex...but she wants me to take it slow.

i told her if she doesnt like me..theres no point...

she said...you know i like you...

booyah....got a live one....
 

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lol maybe she wants you to wine and dine her, before you get behind her. Either way, the onus is on you to act. So make it swift and you will have the pounani which you are after.
 
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