"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So i had dinner with this girl last night (thursday), now its today (friday) and I don't have plans for tonight, kinda want to hang out with her again. I know she's into me, but I don't want to see too needy/desperate/like i have nothing else to do. I have plans with friends for tomrrow (saturday), so it would be nice (read: convenient) if I could see this girl today.

we've been texting on and off all day, she hasn't mentioned if she has plans tonight, but again I dont want to come off as all overbearing and whatever. would it be a bad idea to ask her if she wanted to hang out tonight?

Also for reference, last night was our 2nd time hanging out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nah man be 'busy' tonight. You're right with the 2 days in a row thing, I'd wait a few days.
 

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cool, we texted a little but we didnt hang out.
so should i wait for her to initiate the 3rd date? i've initiated the first 2, and it gets a little frustrating to keep putting myself out there.. I'm pretty sure she likes me, but I think she's just taking it slow.. I need to stop thinking about it.. I'm trying to not get wrapped up in her, and I think its going pretty well, but she's pretty hot and we had sex on the first date.. I want more. lol
 

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Yeah still initiate, just remember to have other stuff going on. I wouldn't advise sending too many texts, just keep them short and funny/silly and not give a lot away, for example by letting her know what you're up to each night. If you want to do something Sunday, ask her. I'd find out what she's doing first then once she's free suggest a place. If she says she's going out clubbing in the city, tell her you might see her there, even if you're not going out.
 
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