"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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HB Goth wants to come over and fvck, but I basically turned her down because I want to watch football. Decisions, decisions :down:

Had date number 3 with Asian girl. Went well. Progressed to hand-holding and cuddling during a movie (in the theater though...which she paid for, btw). As usual, our goodbyes are rushed due to crowded subways. But it's moving along nicely. The one-itis is growing strong with this one...I will use my will-power to keep my game tight.

I also turned down an offer to hang out from HB Dance yesterday, though she didn't go out of her way to make it work either.

Basically: Potential FWB girl number one is unattractive, FWB number 2 is annoying, HB Dance is a nice girl but I don't have a strong desire to see her right now. So that leaves us the Asian girl. Not bad for my first successful cold approach.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I haven't updated this in awhile due to basically seeing only the Asian girl. I hooked up with each of the OKCupid chicks mentioned in prior posts once more since I last posted, but one of them has been dropped. So, I'm banging one girl, but she seems to like me, so that might end soon too (cuz she's not hot :eek: )

Girl from class

There's this HB 7.5 girl in one of my classes. Dirty blonde, short, big boobs. She's shown (very mild) signs of interest, but I think I'm just going to see if she wants to grab a drink right then and there next time I see her (well, after class on Wednesday, that is). Even if she's busy, I assume her response will tell me if it's worth pursuing or not.

Asian Girl

Things were going very well with Asian girl. I have not had sex with her, but I've been making progress physically, and have been bringing her out of her shell. She seems quite inexperienced and conservative in that nature. I was really starting to like her, and was seeing LTR potential.

Last week she started texting me some fluff conversation stuff. I asked when she'd be free over the weekend, and we both agreed we'd be free Saturday afternoon. Saturday morning, I shot her a text. No response.

She hasn't contacted me since. She's not dead, because she posted a picture on Facebook (with some girl friend of hers), but it has apparently since been deleted.

I find this all to be extremely disrespectful, and so I am now back to actively finding new girls. She done messed up...
 
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You're doing great keeping these chicks in the rotation. Isn't it funny how women can be so attracted to you one moment and completely ignore your existence the next?

Try bold game next time and see how far you can get away with.
 

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BeginningDJ said:
You're doing great keeping these chicks in the rotation. Isn't it funny how women can be so attracted to you one moment and completely ignore your existence the next?
Tell me about it. I have no idea what happened there...

BeginningDJ said:
Try bold game next time and see how far you can get away with.
Ha, that's what I was going to do! Even got some good wine :up:
 

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Harsh rejection

HB 7.5 white brunette girl walking in front of me, towards university campus. I catch up to her at an intersection.

Me: Hi
HB: Hi...
Me: I thought you were cute so I wanted to talk to you.
HB: Uhh...ok?
Me: I'm ARrocket [extends hand]
HB: I'm HB [does not extend hand, looks like she's trying to escape]
Me: You're not gonna shake my hand?
HB: No...[starts walking away]
Me: Ok, bye.
HB: Bye.

Asian Girl

She ended up contacting me; she asked why I never replied to her her text to meet up. I was wondering the same thing, so according to her story, she replied, and I never got it. It's plausible, since I do have a shítty phone company. I have no reason not to believe her, but I'll proceed with caution.

HB Class

Well I've been flirting with her a bit, mostly positive signs from her. But she's usually in a hurry to leave right after class, and doesn't even say goodbye to me sometimes. So her IL probably isn't super high or anything, so I won't force it (tiny class, could get awkward). If an opportunity arises, I'll pounce.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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