Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Wilko

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So, what Game, if any, has stuck with you five, or ten years later - what do you actually continue to use? I get that it's kind of an arbitrary distinction; where does the "Game" end and the individual begin, but I think you know what I mean.

Game-wise, I think that all I really do these days is make smart decisions, and put my own interests first. I actually act on warning signs when I see them, and I trust my gut instinct. There's a deliberateness in my choices that wasn't there when I started - and that's the part of my behaviour that I tend to think of as "Game".

That, and allowing women to think they have some direct competition for my attention.

Over to you guys. Feel free to talk about the Game you've discarded along the way also.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Boilermaker

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From what I understood from the legendary RT is

there is no distinction between the Game and the individual.

You become that man who demands his own proper role in his encounters with women while he demands the same from his woman.

This, contrary to popular feminist propaganda, is not a double standard because while you demand your natural rights to behave like a "man", you expect your partner to assume their corresponding role, in a perfectly fair division of labor. From this standpoint - I could try and argue why it is not OK for a woman to be promiscuous while similar behavior can be condoned for a man, under certain circumstances.

But that's another story.
In short, I don't like to think that I disassociate myself from my true self when I interact with women. That switch , if it exists at all, is always ON.
 

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Lol @ Boilermaker. It's definitely the more interesting part of that question, so I can't blame you for going there. I had intended the thread to be more about the specific behaviours themselves, rather than their relationship with some core identity - important though that is.

For instance:

Give us an example of something you still "do" with every "date".

Or, tell us what bit of DJ dogma just never worked for you in the real world.
 
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