"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wilko

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So, what Game, if any, has stuck with you five, or ten years later - what do you actually continue to use? I get that it's kind of an arbitrary distinction; where does the "Game" end and the individual begin, but I think you know what I mean.

Game-wise, I think that all I really do these days is make smart decisions, and put my own interests first. I actually act on warning signs when I see them, and I trust my gut instinct. There's a deliberateness in my choices that wasn't there when I started - and that's the part of my behaviour that I tend to think of as "Game".

That, and allowing women to think they have some direct competition for my attention.

Over to you guys. Feel free to talk about the Game you've discarded along the way also.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Boilermaker

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From what I understood from the legendary RT is

there is no distinction between the Game and the individual.

You become that man who demands his own proper role in his encounters with women while he demands the same from his woman.

This, contrary to popular feminist propaganda, is not a double standard because while you demand your natural rights to behave like a "man", you expect your partner to assume their corresponding role, in a perfectly fair division of labor. From this standpoint - I could try and argue why it is not OK for a woman to be promiscuous while similar behavior can be condoned for a man, under certain circumstances.

But that's another story.
In short, I don't like to think that I disassociate myself from my true self when I interact with women. That switch , if it exists at all, is always ON.
 

Wilko

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Lol @ Boilermaker. It's definitely the more interesting part of that question, so I can't blame you for going there. I had intended the thread to be more about the specific behaviours themselves, rather than their relationship with some core identity - important though that is.

For instance:

Give us an example of something you still "do" with every "date".

Or, tell us what bit of DJ dogma just never worked for you in the real world.
 
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